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for every dollar they get, and tbey have it given in a gTudgiug and 

 superior manner, as if the}' were the guardians of a woman's soul and 

 body through the dollars that they claim are theirs. In this new edu- 

 cation that is beginning to hold up its head for recognition, a man will 

 be taught that he can never hold the love and respect of his wife, unless 

 there is to be established the proper financial relation between them, 

 and that relation must be begun before the wedding ceremony is per- 

 formed, by making his financial standing and earning capacity a mat- 

 ter of knowledge and importance between them. 



I do not put all the blame of present day conditions upon the men 

 for women should early in their married life, if they did not do it be- 

 fore marriage, make the men understand that they are not serfs or 

 menials, but they are human beings with desires and aspirations equal 

 to their own and these demands of their natures can only be met by 

 expenditure of money at the proper time, Avithout any questions or 

 suggestions from them. When we give the proper education to our 

 girls and train them for self support, no man will dare to make any 

 thing less out of his wife than a financial partner, because she will sub- 

 mit to nothing less. 



In this book "Woman and Home" the author says: "Marriage is 

 supposed to be an equal partnership of husband and wife in the great- 

 est social institution — the home, the family. But most connubial part- 

 nerships are conducted something after this fashion : The bride puts 

 into the concern everything she has in the world, all her material 

 capital as well as her attractiveness, her youth, her loving sympathetic 

 heart, her self-sacrificing spirit, which no man can equal, her tender- 

 ness, her strength, all her wealth of mind and hodj. She gambles her 

 whole fortune in the partnership, she risks everything in it. She is even 

 going to take the chance of losing her life which is an infinitely 

 greater risk than ever a man takes in any business venture. The hus- 

 band of course in like manner puts in or is supposed to put in every 

 thing he has but — and here's the rub — how does he treat his partner 

 in regard to the joint earnings of the institution? He collects all the 

 money, banks it, draws it out by check just as he pleases, doles out 

 a little here and there to his wife, if he approves of the way she is 

 going to use it, and demands of her an itemized expense account just 

 as he does of his traveling salesman. This account he usually criticizes 

 and if it doesn't meet with his approval he cuts it down. About all the 

 power money gives in the household the husband holds. The wife gets 

 no salary, the profits are not divided, the partner who takes the greatest 

 risks receives the smallest returns." 



Perhaps if an experience meeting could be indulged in we all would 

 have some experiences to relate along this financial question. 



The second most important relation to exist is co-operation. 



Very few homes are founded upon a complete understanding of that 

 relation. They usually enter into it with a strong line of demarca- 

 tion as to what is man's work and what is woman's work and to over- 

 step the bounds by either is not supposed to be possible. 



Men and women should be so trained that when they assume the 

 duties and responsibilities of home-making that they would know it 



