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and duty to see that she never has cause to regret the step that 

 you are responsible for her having taken. 



Be patient. Remember that heretofore she has leaned upon 

 the counsel and encouragement of her mother, and now she is 

 called upon to exercise her own judgment and skill. She'll make 

 mistakes, she wouldn't be human if she didn't. Commend her 

 every effort, even if the result fall short. Let her see that you 

 have faith in her ability to accomplish all things, and she'll not 

 disappoint you. Tell her she is the neatest, most orderly, little 

 housekeeper in the country, and you are proud to have the 

 neighbors go through her kitchen. She'll not fail you. Tell 

 her if she keeps on improving she will beat your mother cooking. 

 Why, man alive, she'll do it every time. You don't know of the 

 qualities to be brought out and emphasized with a little judicious 

 praise. Save her strength, because an ambitious little woman will 

 place no limit on her endurance when she's bidding for the ap- 

 proval of -the man she loves. Keep a watchful eye on her that 

 she may not oxertax her energy, and, if you cannot aft"ord help, 

 there are numerous ways in which you may render valuable as- 

 sistance about the house. 



See to it that she has an income or allowance that is quite her 

 own, and for which she need render no accounting. Let her feel 

 that you would gladly provide her with every luxury if it were 

 within your power. Give her the chickens — you'll have a better 

 flock of fowls — and see that she has the proper place and the 

 needed assistance to enable her to show her skill and business 

 ability in their management. Say to her : "The money you get 

 from this source shall be yours without question." You'll find it 

 will pay you well, for when taxes are due or you want to cancel a 

 note, you won't have to go to the bank, you can borrow of your 

 wife, — she'll have it saved. 



No, women are not the extravagant creatures some men 

 think them. Give her your confidence and let her feel the bless- 

 ing of your unbounded trust. Say to her : "Here is the pocket- 

 book. There are such and such payments to meet, you know what 

 we can afford as well as I ; use the money as you think best." 

 This liberty and confidence will be its safest guard, she will 

 never touch it without first consulting you. You'll find it all 

 there and she will cheerfully make over her old dresses and trim 

 her bonnets, year after year, until you begin to admire the more 

 up-to-date clothes of some other woman. 



Don't say my farm. This is a partnership affair and the 

 proper term is our farm. Ask her advice on all business mat- 

 ters. If you don't see it to follow her suggestions explain your 

 objections and she'll be satisfied. Let her be thoroughly con- 

 versant with your business and business methods, then, if you 



