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, 165. Love commences with admiration, and if supported 

 by /io/»e, advances to fondness; an ardent desire of pleasing; 

 an anxious fear of displeasing the beloved object; inattention 

 to such of its faults (not vices) as do not directly interfere 

 with the hope of its exclusive possession, and the social hap- 

 piness of the conjugal state. Thus supported, it is pleasing 

 in proportion to its ardour. But if haunted by perplexing 

 doubts; irritated by unexpected obstacles; distracted by 

 jealousy, it then, in proportion to its intensity, either settles 

 in sullen displeasure, or becomes a gloomy, or a vehement 

 atid impetuous passion of the most painful and tormenting 

 kind, often verging to, or terminating in insanity or suicide. 



166. Fondness and tenderness are the inseparable attendants 

 of genuine love. Fondness denotes the pleasure of beholding 

 the beloved object, and consequently desire of its presence. 

 Tenderness consists in an exquisite sensibility to whatever may 

 please, and anxiety to prevent whatever may even be sus- 

 pected to injure or displease the object of one's love or 

 affection. 



167- Self-love, in the proper sense of the word, perhaps 

 does not exist, as Mr. Hume has remarked*, and Mr. Usher-f-. 

 AVe find no pleasure in our own society, (if I may so speak,) 

 when debarred of any other, nor willingly think or converse 



with 



* Treatise on Human Nature, vol. 2. p. 96. 



f Theory of the Human Mind, 3 FugitiTe Pieces, p. 147. 



