MENTAL TRAITS. 189 



"A MAN HATER" SEXUALLY. 



It is in the nature of things that man should desire to " multiply 

 and replenish the earth." With some women and with many men the 

 chief object and aim in marriage is to bring into the world healthy, in- 

 telligent and robust children to illumine their early and cheer their 

 declining days. 



With all who seek the married state the expectation is that it shall 

 result in a prolonged intimacy with the chosen one and in securing a 

 home a peaceful, happy home. Is it not then of the utmost import- 

 ance that steps should be taken, intelligently, to so choose as to gain 

 the ends desired? And is it not the height of folly to go blindly into 

 this, by far the most important relation of his lifetime? 



If a man is full-blooded, sexually vigorous and strong, do you sup- 

 pose that he could reasonably expect satisfaction if he married a girl like 

 the one illustrated as "A Man Hater Sexually"? A woman whose sex- 

 ual development was arrested in early youth who has not enough 

 sexual passion to last her through two years of wedlock ? Assuredly not. 

 (See page 113.) Such women usually have flat chests, narrow hips, 

 bloodless and thin or peaked features, indicative of arrested sexual de- 

 velopment and a lack of that warmth and softness that attracts and 

 holds the affections of men. Some women marry because they want a 

 man to support them. They will have a horror of bearing children or 

 rearing a family. Sexually they are man haters. Let them alone, 

 young man, unless you likewise are indifferent to such things. 



HOW TO FIND HAPPINESS IN CONJUGAL RE- 

 LATIONS. 



When mother or sister perceive, as they are apt to do, that the son 

 or brother designs to " get married " to or is " keeping company " 

 with some member of the other sex whom they have reason to believe 

 would be altogether unsuitable as a life companion, it is of the most 

 vital importance that promptly and tactfully some word of warning be 

 given to that son or brother before it is too late before the final step 

 is taken that is to result, and so often does result, in a life of misery 

 and sometimes of sin or of crime. The young man, as a rule, is blind 

 to the facts, attracted by some fancy or some alluring trait; he cannot 

 distinguish its evanescent quality or note that this attraction of feature 

 or mind, as it may happen to be, will not stand the test of intimacy or 

 of time. 



If, then, other and sterling qualities are lacking in the woman of his 

 choice love soon fades to discontent, then to apathy, and then to dis- 

 gust and loathing. Hence the importance of " whispering in his ear " 

 the timely word that as he values his future happiness or would avoid 

 a life of misery and wretchedness he must stop. Many may not listen 

 to the timely warning but more will, and thousands of affectionate sis- 

 ters and often mothers have thus saved a much-loved brother or son 

 from that " hell on earth "an unhappy, mismated married exist- 

 ence. 



