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GUIDE TO MARRIAGE. 



WHOM TO MARRY OR NOT TO MARRY. 



One of the greatest causes of unhappiness, nay, misery, in the world, 

 is the steady adherence to the superstition that two young people who 

 feel, when in each other's company, the sexual excitement that is so often 

 mistaken for love, must marry. It is folly for which thousands upon 

 thousands are constantly paying a most fearful price. Love ! Why, 

 love means self sacrifice. It means wisdom. Many a man for love has 

 remained a bachelor all his life. 



Nature has decreed that certain dispositions will antagonize certain 

 other dispositions. Marriage is often so hasty that these faulty dis- 

 positions are not discovered until after marriage, when it is too late 

 to retreat, no matter how much it may be desired. 



The following simple rules should be carefully studied and kept in 

 mind. 



1st. Two people of similar complexion and temperament should 

 never marry. If they do it will prove a failure. 



2nd. Two tall, slim people or two short, heavy-set people should 

 not marry. 



3rd. A nervous, fidgety person should never marry another nervous 

 person. 



/ 4th. A man should never marry a woman who is given to finding 

 fault, or who is peevish and "cranky," or who scolds her little brothers 

 and sisters. 



5th. A woman should never marry a man who is naturally inclined 

 to be arrogant and cruel, or who is inordinately selfish. 



6th. A man should never marry a womar* who is so proud that she 

 keeps her parents poor dressing and providing for her. Beauty never 

 atones for pride. 



7th. A man should never marry a woman WLO is "touchy " or fickle 

 in her friendship, or often at "outs" with her parents. Depend upon 

 it these characteristics are due to a serious fault in her nature which, 

 after marriage, will reappear in her own home to make it miserable. 



CHARACTERISTICS THAT ARE FATAL TO FUTURE HAPPINESS. 



Some young men act very foolish in choosing a companion for life. 

 They are apt to mistake a physical passion for love, and marry a girl 

 who can never be a mate, because nature has decreed otherwise. Some 

 think they fall in love with hair, or with eyes, or with dimples, or with a 

 pretty figure. Temperament cuts a vastly greater figure than face. A 

 pretty face with peevish or selfish temper is like a fair-skinned apple 

 that is wormy or rotten within. 



Don't marry a girl whose chief aim in life is dress ; who hangs around 

 dry goods or millinery stores like butterflies around a gorgeous flower. 



To dress extravagantly is a blot upon any woman's character. When 

 the activity of the mind is taken up with finery the soul grows pinched 

 and lean, the mind fails to develop, and such a woman cannot make a 

 decent partner for any sensible man. 



So, too, should no girl think of accepting any young man for a lover 



