192 TO MAKE DOMESTIC HAPPINESS CONTINUOUS. 



HOW TO MAKE DOMESTIC HAPPINESS CONTINUOUS. 



The glamour of youth pictures for love an eternal paradise of happi- 

 ness in the association of the two who love each other. True, thus it 

 should be, and in many instances it is so. In the majority of families, 

 however, domestic happiness all too soon disappears. It is therefore of 

 the utmost importance for the youthful couple that the rules which gov- 

 ern harmony be understood and lived up to. 



WHEN PASSION SHOULD BE CUBBED. 



A man must not let his passion become selfish, and demand what a 

 woman cannot and should not give. The man must bear in mind that 

 while he is always passionate a woman's constitution differs and can 

 properly meet him only periodically. For a man to demand more, or 

 not to respect at all times the wife's nature in this respect, is to cause 

 her to feel loathing toward him in spite of herself. The wife, on the 

 other hand, should also recognize the reasonable need of her hus- 

 band's natural desires, and while restraining indulgence with proper 

 periods of rest, which vary according to conditions, from two weeks to 

 two months, or longer, should not be niggardly. During pregnancy, 

 with the possible exception of the last month, no true man will ever 

 think of such indulgence. Mutual respect and affection are often sacri- 

 ficed at this time by the husband's unreasonable demands. 



WHEN SEPABATE APABTMENTS ABE NECESSABY. 



A terrible strain upon the continued attraction of one for the other is 

 the constant occupation of the same apartments. Few indeed can 

 stand this. Young man, if you want your wife to be as attractive in 

 your sight and as loving toward you all the time after marriage as before, 

 see to it that you occupy separate apartments most of the time. It 

 always pays richly for all that it costs in the way of temporary sacri- 

 fice. 



Mutual forbearance with the special peculiarities of temper or prefer- 

 ence is essential. The greatest obstacle to harmony is selfishness. 

 If one will only think first of the happiness of the other under all 

 circumstances, he will get more, enjoy more and live more than he ever 

 can by trying to enforce his own way. 



MONEY IttATTEBS A SO1KCK OF UNHAPPINESS. 



Money matters are the source of much discord and grief to both hus- 

 band and wife. Man and wife are partners and are entitled to one-half 

 of the common fund and no more. There is no sense in the woman 

 begging for a little money from her husband, emphasizing thus her 

 dependence upon his pleasure. While she is bearing children she is 

 entitled to good pay for her services. Otherwise she should be inde- 

 pendent of the man's liberality or stinginess, as the case may be, and 

 earn her own money to spend for her own uses. There are a hundred 

 ways in which she can do this, and the sense of independence that fol- 

 lows repays her for whatever social sacrifice it may entail. 



