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together courts disaster, and is terribly patriarchal in 

 outlook. Marriage without fondness often makes 

 shipwreck, for love is a unity with bodily and spiritual 

 expressions inextricably intertwined. Marriage with 

 too much physical fondness may also make shipwreck. 

 Bernard Shaw states an ugly truth for men when he says 

 " marriage is popular because it combines the maximum 

 of temptation with the maximum of opportunity." 



The normal love of civiHsed men and women hap- 

 pily married is like a tree with deep roots, going far 

 down into animal nature — roots that may be safely 

 pruned, but never wholly cut — but with lofty branches 

 that rise into the sunlight and bear always the homely 

 and sometimes the rare fruits of the spirit. ' It is a pity 

 when love does not rise off the ground. 



There is no doubt that we may look to hygiene and 

 education and the Hke, and to social changes as well, 

 for the removal of extrinsic hindrances — in housing, 

 for instance — to married happiness ; but some of our 

 grandfathers and grandmothers were probably hap- 

 pier and better in their but and ben than many who 

 Hve in mansions. We greatly err if we think change 

 of circumstances will necessarily save our souls. But 

 we must try to secure the evolutionary circumstances 

 all the same. 



The maternal instinct is of supreme survival-value, 

 and it has influenced the rest of the nature in the direc- 

 tion of other-regarding sympathies. In the family hfe 

 in which ib has expressed itself there has been estab- 

 Hshed a garden for the individual cultivation of these 



