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become diametrically opposed to, his needs 

 and to the natural forces which drive him." 

 Like Heape we start from a recognition of 

 the deep and pervasive constitutional differ- 

 ence between the sexes, but we regard this 

 as furnishing a great part of the attractiveness 

 of the sexes for one another, both in passion 

 and in love. A normal married life with 

 some reasonable co-operation (and apprecia- 

 tion of the co-operation, it must be added) 

 does not as a matter of fact lead to diametrical 

 opposition of the partners, but very generally 

 to a loving comradeship, which may, of course, 

 be relatively humdrum or high-pitched as 

 those involved care to make it, but which 

 is none the less one of the fine things in 

 life. 



(b) Our second note is one already expressed, 

 that of the underlying unity of love in its 

 sensual and spiritual expressions alike. To 

 biologists this is a commonplace ; it is borne 

 out very strikingly in the psycho-analytic 

 work of Freud. And part of the advice which 

 this expert gives us is not to forget the animal 

 within us and the legitimate claims of sexual 

 gratification. Sublimate this, indeed, and 

 link it on to the best, but deny it at your 

 peril. Marriage without fondness is often 

 severely punished. 



(c) On the other hand there is the opposite 

 risk of conjugal intemperance. It seems likely 

 that as men move away from the traditional 

 patriarchal position, on the one hand, and 

 from the acquiescence with the sex-para- 

 sitism scandal on the other hand, women 

 will lead the way to a higher standard of 



