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NEW ENGLAND FARMER. 



August 27, 1830 



MISCEL1.AJVIES 



MAXIMS FOR MARRIED LADIES. 

 Tlie following riiaxitns, if pursued, will not only 

 luake tlie men in love with marriage, but cause 

 them to be good husbands ; — the first is, to be good 

 yourself. To avoid all thoushts of managing a 

 husliaiid. Never try to deceive or impose on 

 his understanding, nor give him uneasiness ; but 

 treat him with affection, sincerity and respect. 

 Remember that husbands, at best, are only men, 

 subject likcyourselves to error and frailty. Be not 

 too sanguine, then, before marriage, or promise 

 yourselves happiness without alloy. Should you 

 discover anything in his humor or behaviour not 

 altogether what you expected or wish, pass it over, 

 smooth your own temper, and try to niend his, by 

 attention, cheerfulness, and good nature. Never 

 reproach him with misfortunes, which are the 

 accidents and infirmities of life — a burden which 

 each has engaged to assist the other in support- 

 ing, and to which both parties are equally exposed-^ — 

 but instead of murmuring and reflections, divide the 

 sorrows between you ; make the best of it, and it 

 will be easier to both. — It is the innate office of 

 the softer sex to soothe the troubles of the other. 

 Kesolve every morning to be cheerful all day, and 

 should anything occur to break your resolution, 

 suffer it not to put you out of temper with your 

 husband. Dispute not with him, be the occasion 

 what it may ; but much sooner deny yourself the 

 trifie of having your own will, or gaining the bet- 

 ter of an argument, than risk a quarrel or create a 

 heart-burning, which it is impossible to foresee 

 the end of. Implicit submission in a man to 

 his wife, is even disgraceful to both ; but implicit 

 submission in the wife, is what she promised at 

 the altar, what the good will revere her for, and 

 what is, in fact, the greatest honor she can receive. 

 Be assured a woman's power, as well as her hap- 

 piness, has no other foundation than in her hus- 

 band's esteem and love, which it is in her interest, 

 by all possible means, to preserve and increase. 

 Study, therefore, his temper, and command your 

 own. — Enjoy with him satisfaction, share and 

 soothe his cares, and with the utmost assiduity con- 

 ceal his infirmities Amtr. Farmer. 



Marriage. — I woidd have our young ladies 

 impressed with the idea, that their happiness and 

 respectability does not necessarily result from mar- 

 riage, but from the cheerful and faithful discharge 

 of the duties before them, in whatever state or sta- 

 tion they may be placed. — Ladies' Magazine. 



HINTS TO MOTHERS. 



Under this head the following extract is publish- 

 ed in the Portland Courier. They are valuable 

 and welltimed hints. Let fathers, too, profit by 

 them ; for though less with their children than 

 mothers, their example and carriage toward them 

 is equally important. 



' In my intercourse with mothers, I have no- 

 ticed particularly their various methods o? family 

 government, and the errors to which they are most 

 liable. I believe that most of them may be traced 

 to a want of patience. While the judicious moth- 

 er is laudably anxious that her children should im- 

 bibe right feelings and dispositions, she should rec- 

 ollect that during the first five or six years of 

 their lives, when im|)ressions are always the deep- 

 est and most permanent, they are preparing- their 

 little code of morals and forming their habits of 

 action, not so much from her precepts as her 



example. She should therefore look well to her 

 own conduct, and while she is endeavoring to 

 educate them, let her beware that she neglect not 

 herself Let her examine her own disposition, and 

 if that is irritable and iujiiatienf, let her take heed 

 that it does not betray itself in her intercourse with 

 her children. With them, all should be calmness 

 and consistency ; nothing should appear to be the 

 result of passion or caprice. They should always 

 be able to see that their parent has a reason for 

 the course of conduct she jjursues. Those pa- 

 rents, who are always complaining of the stub- 

 bornness and ill humor of their children, may de- 

 pend upon it the faidt lies more with themselves 

 than they are aware, or woidd be willing to ac- 

 knowledge. The mother is perhaps hurried and 

 oppressed with cares of her family, and a child 

 commits some fault, which perhaps at any other 

 time would have only elicited a slight reprimand, 

 but DOW she rebukes it interms entirely dispropor- 

 tioned to the offence, and the child becomes an- 

 gry and turbulent, for he feels as if rebuked, not 

 for doing wrong, but for giving his mother trou- 

 ble ; not for the offence he has committed, but 

 for his mother's want of patience to bear with it ; 

 and he consequently sees not his own fault, but 

 that of his parent. For myself, I never detect a 

 fault in a child, or have occasion to punish one, 

 without examining myself with the most scrutini- 

 zing severity, lest there should be something in 

 my example to foster the fault I am so anxious 

 to eradicate from my child.' 



Unseasonable and Dangerous Practices. 



After a long and fatiguing walk, or laborios 

 exercise of any kind, to throw off coat or outter 

 garment, untie cravat, expose the neck and breast, 

 and then sit down at an open window, or door, in 

 a current of air in the evening. 



To drink, after such fatigue or exposure, very 

 cold iced water; or to take iced cream, in place of 

 a draught of clear river water, or that which has 

 been exposed some time to the air. 



To eat much of any kind of fruit, or any at all, 

 of that which is unripe, especially in the evening ; 

 or to suppose that the evil consequences are to be 

 obviated by a glass of wine, or cordial, or spirits 

 and water. 



To eat much animal food, or to drink liquors of 

 any kind, under the idea of thereby removing the 

 weakness caused by the great heat of summer. 



To give to infants, or children in general, any 

 such detestable compositions as milk punch, wine 

 or porter sangaree, or toddy. This practice ought 

 to be an indictable offence at common law. 



To give infants and children any of the various 

 quack medicines, which are recommended as cures 

 for worms, or summer complaints, even though 

 sold for twentyfive cents a bottle. The common 

 causes of disease, from teething, weaning, excess 

 or irregularity in food, extreme heat, &c, ale sufli- 

 ciently destructive without the auxiliaries of patent 

 and quack medicines, old women's cures, or 

 mother's sweet gifts. 



To sleep exposed directly to the night air, es,<e- 

 cially if it be very damp, and much cooler than 

 the air of the day. 



To have recourse to morning bitters, drams, or 

 antifogmatics of any description, other than spong- 

 ng the whole surface of the body with salt water, 

 or using a tepid hath of the same. 



To be tempted by the fineness of the evening to 

 Sit up till miilnight, and, as a consequence, to lie 

 in bed in the morninsf. 



To take the usual meals, when excessively ft 

 tigued from want of sleep, unaccustomed labor, c 

 beginning indisposition. Abstinence, or reduce 

 diet, timely commenced, will obviate all the risk 

 from these causes. — Jour, of Health. 



Garden Strawberries. — A gentleman in Mary 

 land burns his strawberry vines every sjjring, b 

 covering the bed about an inch thick with dr 

 straw, and setting fire to it when there is a gentl 

 breeze. He burns one third of his vines at first 

 another third 15 or 20 days later ; and the re 

 maining third still later, and thus secures a succes 

 sion of crops. He thinks that vines managed ii 

 this way yield a third more in quantity than others 



WINES. 



There is a point to which temperance societie; 

 have not directed their energies. They have me 

 the fiend and almost vanquished him, and as a pre 

 caution have generally prohibited even wine. Thii 

 is without doubt a proper caution in this country 

 where the wine most consumed, is, if called Claret 

 part logwood, brandy and water, or if called Madeira 

 cider, honey, and brandy. It is like the patent medi 

 cines that are warranted to contain no mercury, bu 

 the old enemy is there under a new form, and th< 

 more dangerous because in disguise. It is a wel 

 known fact that the countries producing the greates 

 quantity and variety of wines, are the most distin 

 guislied for temperance, and even in the large citie: 

 of France or Italy a person intoxicated is an uncom 

 mon sight. As men in all ages have used wine, i 

 will probably be impossible to make them forego r 

 now, though it would be advantageous. Our owi 

 cider is a stupifying drink, and is often drunk to ex 

 cess.— Tribune. 



Damp Cellars. — Much complaint sometimes ari 

 ses from those whose cellars are damp and nioul 

 dy, and the air disagreeable aud unhealthy : tha 

 the dampness not unfrequently gets dispersec 

 through all the lower parts of a house. A rem 

 edy is said to have been found by having a fire 

 place in the cellar which is done at a smal 

 extra expense when building; by which means, j 

 free and constant circulation of air through ih» 

 cellar is obtaineil. The writer has two houses ir 

 which there are fireplaces in the cellars, and nc 

 complaint is made, as stated above, by those whe 

 occupy them. — Mech. Magazine. 



The companion of a gentleman into whose eai 

 a weevil had flown, poured some whiskey into his 

 ear, having seen it recommended in the newspa- 

 pers, which killed it, and it was drawn forth. 



The season gives the very best promise. Eng- 

 lish Grain of all kinds will be heavy ; Hay abun- 

 dant ; Indian Corn somewhat backward, but be- 

 gins to look up well. Fruit killed in the valley 

 by the late frosts, but the boughs bend under the 

 weight on the hill. — Keene A". H. Sentinel. 



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