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JSEW ENGLAND FARMER. 



May 



Calrieg' ^Department. 



THE SECRET OF MATRIMONIAL HAP- 

 PINESS. 



Zschokke, in one of his tales, gives the following 

 advice to a bride : — "In thy first solitary hour 

 after the ceremony, take the bridegroom and de- 

 mand a solemn vovf of him, and give him a vow 

 in return. Promise one another sacredly, never, 

 not even in jest, to wrangle with each other ; never 

 to bandy words or indulge in the least ill-humor. 

 Never, I say, never ! wrangling in jest, and put- 

 ting on an air of ill-humor merely to tease, be- 

 comes earnest by practice. Mark that ! Next, 

 promise each other, sincerely and solemnly, never 

 to have a secret from each other, under whatever 

 pretext, with whatever excuse it might be. You 

 must continually, and every motnent, see clearly 

 into each otlier's bosom. Even when one of you 

 has committed a fault, wait not an instant, but 

 confess it freely — let it "cost tears, but confess it. 

 And as you keep nothing secret from each other, 

 so, on the contrary, preserve the privacies of your 

 house, marriage state, and heart, from father, 

 mother, sister, brother, aunt, and all the world. 

 You two, with God's help, build your own quiet 

 world ; every third or fourth one whom you draw 

 into it with you, will form a party, and stand be- 

 tween you two. That should never be. Promise 

 this to each other. Renew the vow at each temp- 

 tation. You will find your account in it. Your 

 souls will grow as it were together, and at last 

 will become as one. * Ah, if many a young pair 

 had on their wedding day known this secret, how 

 many marriages were happier than, alas, they 

 are!" 



FAMILY HARMONY. 



1. We may be quite sure that our will is like 

 to be crossed in the day; so prepare for it. 



2. Everybody in the house has an evil nature 

 as well as ourselves, and therefore we are not to 

 expect too much. 



3. To learn the different temper of each indi- 

 vidual. 



4. To look upon each member of the family as 

 one for whom Christ died. 



5. When any good happens to any one, to re- 

 joice at it. 



6. When inclined to give an angry answer, to 

 lift up the heart in prayer. 



7. If from sickness, pain, or infirmity, we feel 

 irritable, to keep a very strict watch over our- 

 selves. 



8. To observe when others are so suffering, 

 and drop a word of kindness and sympathy suited 

 to their state. 



9. To watch for little opportunities of pleasing, 

 and to put little annoyances out of the way. 



10. To take a cheerful view of everything, and 

 encourage hope. 



11. To speak kindly to the servants, and com- 

 mend them for little things when they deserve it. 



12. In all the little pleasures which may oc- 

 cur, to put self last. 



13. To try for "the soft answer that turneth 

 away wrath." 



14. When we have been pained by an unkind 

 word or deed, to ask ourselves, — "Have I not of- 

 ten done the same, and been forgiven?" 



15. In conversation, not to exalt ourselves but 

 bring others forward. 



10. To be very gentle with the younger ones, 

 and treat them with respect, remembering that 

 we were once young too. 



17. Never to judge onl another, but attribute 

 a good motive when you can. 



18. To compare our manifold blessings with 

 the trifling annoyances of life. 



19. To read the scriptures every morning, and 

 ask God's blessing to attend each member of the 

 family through the day. 



^liucrtisiug Department. 



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A Card to Dairymen. 



pLARKE'S EXCELSIOR CHURN is, beyond all question 

 \j "the. best churn for large dairies. The two favoiiie sizes, 

 are $7,00 and $10 each. The latter size is suitable lor ten to 

 thirty cows, indeed, for any large dairy, as one hundred 

 pounds oi Jirst rate butter can be produced in it, at three 

 churnings, in less than one hour. It will be delivered on all 

 paying orders, in Boston, New Vnrk, and Buffalo, free of 

 charge for freight. 



0= Every churn sent out is warranted to please ! This 

 new and saleable churn presents great inducemerts to capi- 

 talists and manuficturing companies to puichase State and 

 County rights. For full description, recommendations, &;C , 

 apply at any time, to GEO. B. CLARKE, Patentee, Leonards- 

 ville, Madison Co., N. Y. 



May 1st, 1853. Im^ 



Sale of Short Horned Cattle. 



I will sell by auction, at my residence, 

 on WEDNESDAY, 8ih .lune next, at 1 

 o'clock P. M , about thirty thorough bred 

 Short Horned Cattle. About twenty of 

 them are Cows and Heifers, the remain- 

 der young Bulls. Nearly every animal 

 are the produce of the Imported Bull "YonK Shireman" and 

 3d "Duke OF Cambridge," bred by the late Thomas Bates, 

 Esq., of Kirkleavington, England, and "Earl op Seaham" 

 and "Van TE.MPEST,"bred by .lohn Stephenson, Esq., of Lur- 

 ham, England, and are of his famous Princes fanjily. 



The upset prices of these animals will be from $1.50 to $300, . 

 as to age, &c., &c. 



I wi'.l also offer the above named Imported Bull, "Van Tem- 

 pest," — his upset price is $1000. 



Terms— Cash, on satisfactory notes at three months, pay- 

 able at the Bank of Auburn, with interest. 



I will also have for sale at that time a few South Down 

 Rams and Suffolk Pigs. 



Catalogues will be ready about 15th March ne.\t, and will 

 be found with 

 A. B. Allen, Esq., 69 Water Strfet, New York. 

 Sanford Howard, Esq., Cultivator office, Boston. 

 Luther Tucker, Esq., and B. P. .lohnson, Esq., Albany. 

 L. F. Allen, Esq., Black Rock. 

 M. B. Bateham, Esq., Columbus, Ohio. 

 W. T. Dennis, Esq., Richmohd, Indiana, and with the sub- 

 scriber. J. M. SHERWOOD. 

 Auburn, N. Y., March 12, 1853. *2 



Clover and Grass Seeds. 



TVTORTIIERN Heids Grass. 

 W Western Herds Grass. 



Northern and Southern Red Top. 



Northern, Western and Southern Red Clover. 



White Dutch Clover. 



Orchard Grass. 



Kentucky Blue Grass. 



Fowl Meadow Grass, &c. &c. 

 All of the growth of 1852, and of best quality. For sale by 

 RUGGLES, NOURSli, MASON & CO., 

 March 26, 1853. tf Over Quincy Market, Boston. 



