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better than the ideal of female friendship. If any 

 pleasure is to be gained from this, it must be strictly 

 regulated never allowed to pass into love or excitement 

 of a noble, manly sort, with something of protecting 

 care in it.' 



Jowett also speaks of the sadder side of friendships, 

 which we have all experienced. Though friendship is often 

 represented as love eternal, it is not so at all, and needs 

 as much, if not more maintaining than love of another 

 kind. 



He says : ' I do not know whether friendships wear 

 out, like clothes not if they are kept in repair, and are 

 not too violent. Then they last, and are a great comfort 

 in this weary world.' 



As I am known to be a strong advocate of marriage, 

 girls often say to me : ' Do you mean that we are to 

 marry somebody who wants to marry us, whether we 

 really like them or not?' To this there seems to me 

 only one answer : * If you are perfectly certain that you 

 like one man better than anybody else, you must get over 

 that before you can marry another. While this strong 

 feeling lasts, and to my belief it will last only so long as, 

 at the back of everything, there is some hope, I would 

 advise you not to marry anyone else in fact, under the 

 circumstances, to think of it would be revolting.' Of 

 course this is the same for men and women. When this 

 feeling has died down to a memory, almost the most real 

 and yet the most unreal fact in one's whole life, then I 

 think a girl should try and make her future by keeping 

 herself for the best type of man who may wish to marry 

 her, not expecting to be ever again at any rate, in her 

 youth blindly in love. 



A common saying, and one upon which I have seen 

 many people hang their lives, is Tout vient d qui salt 

 attendre. This is the version current in England. The 



