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man to marry for this reason a woman who has loved him 

 not wisely but too well. 



I do not for one entirely condemn the French customs 

 as regards marriage, though I believe they themselves are 

 modifying them. When marriages are a question of 

 reason and arrangement, I think it is better that such 

 things should be managed by the elders than by the 

 young people ; and if Englishmen of sense, when they 

 make up their minds to marry, would take the help and 

 advice of older women in seeking a wife, instead of going 

 about with the hope that they may be fancy-stricken 

 through the eye, I think more suitable marriages would 

 be brought about, both as regards character and the very 

 natural wish that the woman should have a certain pro- 

 portion of money to help the joint menage. 



If a man who has married with his best judgment 

 really cares to win the love of a girl after marriage, and 

 takes pains to do so, he is sure to succeed it is so 

 natural for a good affectionate woman to love her husband 

 and the father of her children. 



Of course if a girl, with no sense of duty, merely sells 

 herself to shine in the world, or for admiration and 

 notoriety, which she thinks she will get better married 

 than single, there is nothing to be said. Such things will 

 always be ; but a girl of that type is rare, and almost as 

 mischievous single as married. The type of women that 

 men often know most about was thus described to me by 

 a man. He gave it as his deliberate opinion of women 

 as he had found them : ' They are curious creatures ; in 

 religion they can believe fifty times as much as any man. 

 In love they only believe when they see and hear you ; as 

 soon as your back is turned they scream and cry out you 

 have abandoned them. Before you come they want you, 

 when you have gone you have betrayed them, and they 

 wonder that a man cannot bear that sort of thing for 



