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will, thoroughly understanding and facing what she 

 undertakes, in nine cases out of ten she will carry it 

 through and make the best of it. The person who ' has 

 gained the world ' is perhaps the one least likely to throw 

 it away. It is the sentimental, warm-hearted, impression- 

 able girl, who marries some man of the world not 

 knowing what she is doing, who turns to someone else 

 for consolation in bitterness of spirit when she finds out 

 her mistake. 



The tone of the day, as it is often represented in 

 ephemeral literature, is that/so far as the moral life goes, 

 the sexes should be equal. This has given rise to a very 

 natural feeling amongst girls : that it is a matter of no 

 importance which loves most or even first, the man or the 

 woman. The stronger feeling on the woman's side is a 

 phase of the relations between men and women which 

 always has been and always will be ; but the open acknow- 

 ledgment of it is certainly much more common now than 

 forty years ago. Nothing changes Nature, and especially in 

 youth it is natural for the man to take the initiative. The 

 cultivation of pride in a woman is much to be desired, and 

 would never deter a man who was really in earnest in his 

 pursuit. In fact, we all value what is difficult of attain- 

 ment. I found this well expressed in an American 

 periodical which I took up by chance last year ; it was 

 called ' The Way of Man ' : 



There was many a Hose in the glen to-day 



As I wandered through, 

 And every bud that looked my way 



Was rich of hue. 

 Yet the one in my hand, 



Do you understand ? 

 Not a whit more sweet, not quite so fair, 



But it grew in the breach of the cliff up there. 



A question I have frequently heard discussed by 

 people who perhaps would be the very last to be them- 



