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taking their part, or that you love them if you talk merely about 

 loving them. Show them that you love them by your actions. 

 Let them see that you are generous with donations. In such ac- 

 tions they will see your good work and then they will be able to 

 judge for themselves whether your actions equal your words. 



My daughter, do not show your love for other children so that 

 strangers notice it. You may, of course, love other children, but 

 love them with a different love from that which you bestow on your 

 own children. The children of other people are different from your 

 own children, and if you were to take them to some other place 

 after you had been lavishing so much love upon them they woidd 

 not act as your children would under the same circumstances. You 

 can always depend upon your own children. They are of your own 

 body. Love them, therefore. This is what our ancestors taught 

 us to do. 



If a wife has no real interest in her husband's welfare and posses- 

 sions she will be to him no more than any other woman, and the 

 world will ridicule her. If, on the other hand, you pay more atten- 

 tion to your husband than to your parents, your parents will leave 

 you. Let your husband likewise take care of your parents, for they 

 depend on him. Yoxu- parents were instrumental in getting you 

 your husband, so remember that they expect some recompense for 

 it, as likewise for the fact that they raised you. 



My daughter, the old people used to teach us never to hurt the 

 feelings of oiu- relatives. If you hurt their feelings, you will cause 

 your brothers-in-law to feel ashamed of themselves. Do not ever 

 wish for any other man but your husband. It is enough to have 

 one husband. Do not let anyone have the right to call you a 

 prostitute. 



Do not hit your relatives at any time. For if you did that or if 

 you were on bad terms with one of them, it may chance that he will 

 die, and then the people will say that you are glad that he is dead. 

 Then, indeed, you will feel sad at heart and you wUl think to your- 

 self, "What can I best do" (to make up for my conduct). Even if 

 you were to give a Medicine Dance in his honor or donate gifts for 

 the Four Nights' Wake, many people will still say, "She used to be 

 partial and jealous when he was alive. Now that he is dead she 

 loves liim. Why does she act this way ? She is wasting her wealth. 

 (She really does not love him and therefore), and she ought not to 

 spend so much money upon him now." Then, indeed, my daughter, 

 will your heart ache; then, indeed, will you get angry. That is 

 why the old people would tell their cliildren to love one another. 

 If you love a person and that person dies, then you will have a right 

 to mourn for him, and everyone will think that your moiu-ning is 

 sincere. Not only will your own relatives love you, but everyone 

 else wiU love you likewise. If, then, in the course of your life you 



