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far better than the ideal of female friendship. If any 

 pleasure is to be gained from this, it must be strictly 

 regulated — never allowed to pass into love or excite- 

 ment — of a noble, manly sort, with something of pro- 

 tecting care in it.' 



Jowett also speaks of the sadder side of friendships, 

 which we have all experienced. Though friendship is 

 often represented as love eternal, it is not so at all, and 

 needs as much, if not more, maintaining than love of 

 another kind. 



He says : ' I do not know whether friendships wear 

 out, like clothes — not if they are kept in i-epair, and are 

 not too violent. Then they last, and are a great comfort 

 in this weary world.' 



As I am known to be a strong advocate of marriage, 

 girls often say to me : ' Do you mean that we are to 

 marry somebody who wants to marry us, whether we 

 really like them or not?' To this there seems to me 

 only one answer : ' If you are perfectly certain that you 

 like one man better than anybody else, you must get 

 over that before you can marry another. While this 

 strong feeling lasts, and to my belief it will last only so 

 long as, at the back of everything, there is some hope, 

 I would advise you not to marry anyone else — in fact, 

 under the circumstances, to think of it would be revolt- 

 ing.' Of course this is the same for men and women. 

 When this feeling has died down to a memory, almost 

 the most real, and yet the most unreal fact in one's 

 whole life, then I think a girl should try and make her 

 future by keeping herself for the best type of man who 

 may wish to marry her, not expecting to be ever again 

 — at any rate, in her youth — blindly in love. 



A common saying, and one upon which I have seen 

 many people hang their lives, is Tout vient d qui salt 

 attendre. This is the version current in England. The 



