“BEAR AND FORBEAR.’^ 
longer a man puts off marriage, in general, the less 
inclined he feels to marry. The planter ought, in 
justice to the lady, to fairly represent his circum- 
stances and position, and what she would likely have 
to undergo, and so, if she accepts the man, she must 
clearly understand she accepts also his position, so 
that there need be no subsequent grumbling on this 
point. Probably much subsequent disappointment has 
been given to ladies, by planters “ going home for 
a wife,” and representing planting life too much 
coideur dii rose. It is a curious fact, that mostly 
all accounts given of this life have, at a distance, 
a spice of romance in them, which, instead of de- 
terring young men and women from proceeding to 
the cinnamon isle, rather eagerly impel them to go 
At least, with regard to men. The more I have 
tried to binder them from “going out,” by stat'ng 
all the difficulties and trials, the more determined 
they were to go. It just seemed that these very 
difficulties and trials rendered them all the keener 
to be encountered. However, when it comes to 
practical life, it is a very different matter, as when 
the lady finds her servants have bolted, and her hus- 
band comes in after a hard day’s work, to find there 
Is no dinner. Probably she has tried to boil a little 
rice, but it is hard and uneatable. He gets angry, 
and says the first sharp thing: — “My dear, with all 
your many charming accomplishments, how is it you 
never learned such a simple matter, as how to boil 
rice ? Give me a cup of tea, if you know liow to 
make it.” The lady will probably retire to her room, 
and have, as they say in Scotland, “a good greet,” 
and wis-li she had never come to this wretched place. 
Perhaps all this is only the beginning of many sor- 
rows. A good deal depends nj on the tact, manage- 
ment, and temper, of the lady. She must recollect 
that her husband has a good deal to try his temper 
with “those coolies.” When he comes home at four 
o’clock, tired and irritated, he may very likely burst 
out with s( me ill-natured remarks which, poor man, 
he does not mean, and which no doubt he is heartily 
sorry for after they are uttered. If the lad.y, instead 
of retiring to her room to have a “good greet,” what- 
ever she may have internally felt, had laughed it off 
with: — “Huw stupid, but I was in a hurry, knowing 
you would be hungry. Never mind ; here is a tin 
of preserved Highland mutton, here is a chisel and 
hammer, oj en it up. It will be ready in five minutes, 
perha}is it will recal to your recollection the day 
you first saw me, looking for blackberries amongst the 
heather.” Before the tin is well opened, he will say : — 
‘ ‘ That was a bright day for mci but I fear a poor 
