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Until I Sliall Beliold Her. 
BY MRS. M J. SMITH. 
Oh! dimpled hands so cold and still, 
On thee my tears are falling; 
Oh! sweet closed lips by Death made mute, 
I fancy thou art calling:. 
Oh! darkened eyes, but yesterday, 
They beamed on mine so brightly; 
I wait to see them ope again, 
Those lids shut down so tightly. 
Oh! Imortelles that lightly lie 
Around a head all golden; 
Oh! white wax buds of lovely mold. 
By fingers pale enfolden. 
I long to see the pulses stir, 
And bid thy petals quiver; 
To know our darling has re-crossed, 
For us the chilling river. 
Oh! selfish heart. I tremble so. 
What have I asked in anguish— 
I dare not, could not ask her back 
Again to faint and languish. 
I would not break into her song, 
With clay again enfold her. 
But, climbing upward, step by step, 
Wait, till I can behold her. 
Courtesies and Discourtesies. 
There are many courtesies which a gentle- 
mau should render to a lady, the absence 
of which is at once felt, and causes people 
involuntarily to remark inwardly to them¬ 
selves, if not aloud to their friends, “That 
man has not good manners.” I passed that 
judgment the other evening when I was 
sitting with a friend by her fireside. A 
gentleman was ushered in who was well 
known to my friend, but a comparative 
stranger to me. He shook hands with her 
first, which was, of course, the right thing 
to do, and then, while speaking to her he 
shook hands with me. The breaker of this 
law of courtesy was a young professional 
man, well endowed with this world’s goods. 
I should not record this little rudeness if it 
was only of rare occurrence, but I often 
notice people guilty of this discourtesy— 
namely, that of shaking hands with one 
person while they are speaking to another 
person. If you wish to say more than ‘‘How 
do you do?” to your hostess, or to any one 
else whom you greet at . first, it is less dis¬ 
courteous to continue your conversation 
with her for a few moments before taking 
notice of any one near her, than it is to 
stretch out your hand and shake that of 
her neighbor while your face is turned away 
and your lips are addressing another per¬ 
son. 
The discourteous young man to whom I 
have alluded gave me another reason for 
my verdict, and as in this respect also he is 
by no means the only offender in general 
society, I shall mention the little rudeness. 
There are three, if not more, separate syl¬ 
lables and sounds which some people utter 
or make when they have not heard what 
has been said to them, or when they wish 
to express assent. These are—What ? Eh ? 
Uh! and a guttural sound of the letter m, 
which cannot be expressed in writing. “I 
beg your pardon,” or “What did you say ?” 
are sentences which should certainly be 
said when a repetition is asked for; and 
“Yes” should not be replaced by a grunt 
when an assent is given. 
There are numerous little acts which a 
man of courtesy will perform. While he is 
calling at a house, he will rise and open the 
door for any lady who leaves the room, 
even if she is an entire stranger to him; in 
his own house he will not only open the 
door of the room, but accompany the lady 
to the hall hoor, and open that, if there is 
no servant at hand to do so, for a departing 
guest, whether lady or gentleman, should 
not be left to find their way alone. Neither 
should they be allowed to find their way 
into a room. When you act as a host, and 
your guest accompany you into the draw¬ 
ing-room, do not you, my dear sir, follow 
the practice of some forgetful or neglectful 
men, who walk in and march straight up 
the room, leaving their one guest, or a train, 
as the case may be, to follow and to close 
the door. A host should open the door, 
and shut it after his guests have entered 
the room. 
Amongst other small courtesies a gentle¬ 
man will raise from his chair, however 
luxuriously comfortable, and offer assist¬ 
ance, if need be, to a lady if she tries to put 
coals on the fire, or if she tries to open or 
close a window. When he escorts her into 
a room, he will see that she is seated before 
he looks for a chair for himself; when he 
escorts her to a table, he will wait to arrange 
