1895 
THE RURAL NEW-YORKER 
463 
hope for this soon, for that can hardly 
he expected, even though suffrage he 
granted. mollif, wiggins. 
HELPING HIMSELF. 
PUTTIER’S life from the start 
was an earnest one. He earned 
all he got. He worked for his education 
at the Haverhill Academy, had no help, 
and that is the only sort of beginning 
that Is of real value to a man.” Does 
observation of the men you have seen 
grow tip, go to substantiate this rating 
of the superiority of self-help ? Of 
course, we need to remember that char¬ 
acter is true wealth and success, and that 
where that is lacking, much that passes 
for success is cheap and worthless. Yet 
the ambitious, affectionate mother will 
still sigh over a narrow purse that pre¬ 
vents giving her boy more schooling ; 
will lie awake nights planning self- 
denials by which it can be accomplished, 
and only give up the idea with a regret 
whose keenness nothing in her own 
youth ever matched. And the boy ? Ten 
to one he will settle into mediocrity 
without the education that his tastes 
made him really desire because there is 
no one to pay his bills for him. Whittier 
“ went to work and made his own way, 
against the drawbacks of frail health, 
which more than once compelled him to 
relinquish labors he had entered upon.” 
Yet one feels certain that he never 
thought his teachers put too much upon 
him, nor trembled when examinations 
drew near lest he should be dropped. 
Sending home for fresh relays of pocket 
money must have been out out of the 
question in his case, for “ he calculated 
so closely every item of expense, that he 
knew before the beginning of the term 
that he would have 25 cents to spare at 
its close, and he actually had this sum 
of money in his pocket when his half 
year of study was over.” r. r. 
ODDS AND ENDS. 
When the Twig Bends.—Y oung 
mothers, do not allow children to do 
things that are not right, thinking that 
they will quit the bad habits when they 
are older. They will not do it. Do not 
think they are too young, or that you 
will have more time bye and bye. 1 tell 
you of my own experience, that there is 
no time like now. When they are little, 
is the time to break up habits which a 
good mother does not like. Teach them 
to control the temper, to speak the truth, 
to use proper table manners, and other 
things that suggest themselves daily. It 
is the little things that make our happi¬ 
ness or unhappiness, aunt Harriet. 
Which Is Better? —Which is the bet¬ 
ter pity, that which mourns with you 
over your sorrows, or that which helps 
you to forget them ? Mrs. A’s baby was 
learning to walk. He fell and hurt him¬ 
self quite badly. Said Mr. A as she ran 
to pick him up, “ Now, don’t pity him, 
and he won’t cry ! ” But the mother, in 
a most pitiful tone, addressed the child, 
and petted him, and mourned over him 
in a way painful to witness. Was that 
true pity ? 
Mrs. B, when her child was hurt much 
worse, walked here and there with him, 
holding him close, letting him cry, per¬ 
haps, half a minute, kissed him, and then 
began gently and cheerfully to soothe 
him, took him to look from the window, 
and when he looked up into her face with 
his frightened, questioning baby eyes, she 
actually smiled at him, even while her 
own eyes were filled with tears. Although 
a cruel, blue bump rose on the pretty 
forehead, and the little fellow sighed 
now and then, he soon w T ent back to his 
play—trying to walk. I am sure that 
this mother’s pity is the true kind. 
We are all only “ children of larger 
growth,” and once we are sure of our 
friend’s sympathy, once we have felt 
MOTHERS. —Be sure to use “Mrs. Wins¬ 
low’s Soothing Syrup ” for your children 
while Teething. It is the Best.— Adv. 
that he is really sorry for us, isn’t it re¬ 
freshing just to let go, and to drift along 
with him into pleasant thoughts ? 
MRS. L. H. N. 
The Man’s Share. —The Atlanta Con¬ 
stitution tells this story of a man and 
his wife who could not agree. The 
woman evidently held the property in 
this case : “ The breach between them 
widened, until a separation was affected 
on a cash basis, the consideration being 
$400 cash paid the husband by the wife 
for him to leave and never return, ex¬ 
cept to get his household effects. Papers 
were signed and he left. Returning a 
few days thereafter for his goods, the 
wife’s heart softened toward him. But 
he was firm. Negotiations for him to 
remain were opened, and the result was 
that he demanded and received $500 in 
cash not to leave as per contract. He 
didn’t leave any more, and $900 is right 
good money for one week.” Certainly 
“ right good money ” for a weak woman 
to part with. Probably that man doesn’t 
consider marriage so much of a failure ! 
PATTERNS FOR R. N.-Y. READERS. 
Write the order for patterns separate 
from other matter, give bust measure 
and pattern number, and inclose 10 cents. 
Each pattern is complete with instruc¬ 
tions for cutting the garment and put¬ 
ting together. 
6450. Girls’ Dress. 
Pink and white striped dimity is here 
combined with all-over English embroid- 
645C—CIRLO' FROCK 
ery, and prettily decorated with pink 
satin ribbon. The waist is arranged 
over fitted linings, and it closes in the 
back. The upper portions are covered 
with the embroidery to square yoke 
depth, which is firmly stitched on, as 
the linings are cut away from under¬ 
neath. The full front and back are 
gathered top and bottom, the fullness in 
front drooping gracefully in French 
blouse style. Pretty pointed epaulettes 
are placed over the shoulders, the free 
edges of which are finished with narrow 
embroidery, with rosettes of ribbon 
placed at the yoke edge. A crush collar 
of satin ribbon has rosettes on each side. 
Full empire puffs are mounted over 
linings faced to above the elbow with 
embroidery. The skirt is deeply hem¬ 
med ; the top being gathered and sewed 
to the waist. A plainer effect may be 
secured by omitting the all-over em¬ 
broidery, and substituting the material, 
finishing the epaulettes with a plain 
hem, or omitting them altogether as 
preferred. Pattern 6450, is cut in four 
sizes, viz.: 6, 8, 10 and 12 years. 
PRINTED PATCHWORK. 
Loving words will cost but little, 
Journeying up the hill of life; 
But they make the weak and weary 
Stronger, braver for the strife. 
Do you count them only trifles V 
What to earth are sun and rain ? 
Never was a kind word wasted; 
Never one was said in vain. 
— Anonymous. 
_Harper’s Bazar : “In our chang¬ 
ing commercial world, men lose their 
fortunes, and women, instead of weep¬ 
ing and wailing, set sturdily to work to 
build them up again.” 
....New York Press: “The trouble 
with our self-supporting women is that 
they often adopt a solitary method of 
existence that is inimical to the advance¬ 
ment of their ambition.” 
... .R. W. Emerson : “ If we could but 
realize the responsibility of living, we 
would almost be afraid to live, and we 
would almost be afraid to die.” 
. ...N. Y. Ledger: “There is nothing 
more useless, wearisome and absolutely 
nerve-destroying than the argumenta¬ 
tive habit. Once it gets a firm hold, the 
victim can never be satisfied to let any¬ 
thing pass by without a question or an 
objection.” 
... .Yankee Blade : “ The measure of 
a man’s success in life depends very often 
upon himself. It depends more upon 
what he has in himself, the talent, the 
skill, industry, prudence, tenacity, than 
it does on the things that lie outside of 
him—otherwise his opportunities. An 
opportunity is of no earthly use to any 
one until it is grasped, cherished, made 
the most of.” 
Take Care 
of your leather with Vacuum Leather 
Oil. Get a can at a harness- or shoe- 
store, 25c a half-pint to #1.25 a gallon ; 
hook “ How to Take Care of Leather,” 
and swob, both free ; use enough to 
find out; if you don’t like it, take the 
can back and get the whole of your 
money. 
Sold only in cans, to make sure of fair dealing 
everywhere—handy cans. Best oil for farm ma¬ 
chinery also. If you can’t find it, write to 
VACUUM OIL COMPANY, Rochester, N Y. 
S END for Catalogue of 
the Musical Instru¬ 
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The Rural New-Yorker. 
For Good 
Color and 
Heavy Growth 
Of Hair, use 
Hair Vigor 
One 
Bottle will do 
Wonders. Try it. 
Purify the Blood with Ayer’s Sarsaparilla. 
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SEWING MACHINES. 
If you are ready to buy a 
machine, send for it. 
CHICAGO SEWING MACHINE COMPANY, 
CHICAGO, ILL. 
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fruit, gardening, farm and grazing lands located in 
SOUTHERN ILLINOIS. They are also largely 
interested in, and call especial attention to the 000,000 
acres of land in the famous 
Yazoo Valley of Mississippi, 
lying along and owned by the Yazoo and Mississippi 
Valley Railroad Company, and which that Company 
offers at low prices and on long terms. Special induce 
merits and facilities offered to go to and examine 
these lands both in Southern Illinois and in the 
“ Yazoo Valley,” Miss. For further description, 
map and any information, address or call upon 
E. P. SKENE, Land Commissioner, No. 1 Park Row. 
Chicago, 111.; or. G. W. MCGINNIS, Assistant Land 
Commissioner, Memphis. Tenn. 
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