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THE HOUSEHOLD ANGEI 
She prows no older, year by year. 
At least., not to the outward seeming ; 
She only w ns ull hearts ancar. 
With that sweet, face where peace is beaming. 
Yet closely view that golden hair. 
And you shall see the white threads stealing; 
And though the brow is smooth and fair, 
Yet Time his way is o’er it feeling. 
So soft her step! so sweet her voice ! 
So fraught her daily life with loving; 
Her very smile makes nil rejoice, 
And from its spell there is no roving. 
The little children round her cling; 
She tells them fairy tides at even. 
And with them oft she loves to sing 
Sweet, hymns that breathe of Christ and Heaven. 
She listens to the old man’s tale. 
Oft-told, and maundering of the hours 
When life for hint wore pleasure'* veil. 
And youth was garlanded with dowers. 
No hand can raise the sick one's head. 
Or cool the burning flush of fever, 
I.ike hers; and not an angel’s trend 
Could come so lightly, tiring never. 
She has a helpful word for all. 
She wins the recreant hack with kindness; 
She stoops to lift who st umbling fall, 
And. pitying, never mocks their blindness. 
To her we go when sorrow, come— 
She soothes the hour of bitter weeping; 
Her still, sweet face illumes the home. 
Though death within his watch is keeping. 
So gently goes she down life’s way- 
Perhaps lier feet arc torn and bleeding; 
Intent to aid imothor's way. 
The thorns In hers she trends unheeding. 
So gently goes she o’er life’s way. 
We never hear a word complaining ; 
Like some sweet bird at early day. 
Her wing to Uouvon Is ever straining. 
Perchance that tuneful harp of hers 
May have some string forever broken; 
Some chord that, yet 111 memory Jars, 
And echoes sorrows never spoken. 
We know not—only tills we know. 
She’s dearer far limn any other; 
To part with her were crushing woe, 
For in our home we call her ’’ mother.” 
‘ Mother:” sweet name that Infant lips 
First learned to call our household angel; 
Whose briefest absence is eclipse— 
Whose presence is love's best evangel. 
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THE RIGHT OF SELF-SUPPORT. 
BY EDITH MELBOURNE. 
Many a women is weak enough — and we 
are not quite sure that it is all a weakness — 
to marry for an abiding place. She. is de¬ 
pendent on her own efforts lor support; 
many kinds of labor which she mi ght do 
have been denied her, and she may have 
toiled for years in some servile, uncongenial 
labor, which has barely brought her food 
and clothing, while it lias barred against Iter 
the doors of society. Such arc the restric¬ 
tions of society that she lias no right to 
seek that protection the need of which few 
women do not feel at some time in life; and 
so, concealing all the deeper feelings of her 
nature, liars is a sort of double existence 
while she waits to be culled from the rest of 
the world, and that by, perhaps, the very 
man whom she most dislikes. Weary of 
her cheerless existence, and from apparent 
necessity, she accepts one she does not love, 
or perhaps even respect, that in being called 
by his name her reproach may be taken 
away, and that she may insure for herself a 
home. 
Alas that in so many instances she finds 
there lias been a misapplication of that sweet 
word, home, which loses for liar its deepest, 
fullest meaning! Too late she learns that a 
life of solitude is preferable to one of 
wedded misery. Many are the homes thus 
made wretched, and not upon woman alone 
fall the consequences of this profanation of 
tin 1 marriage vows. Back upon the head of 
him who lias not yet learned the full appre¬ 
ciation of her rights, and upon the little 
ones, the offspring of loveless unions, the 
misery falls. 
( Such a state of affairs is entirely wrong. 
But \ve believe the necessity for woman thus 
to sacrifice her better principles, might he 
obviated, or at least partially so, even though 
siie must still wait to bo chosen. In order 
to accomplish this, two things are requisite; 
woman must have other means of support; 
and for her work she must receive just, com- 
!>■ nsation. It is the lack of these which so 
"io n sinks her to the lowest depths of sin 
and degradation. In the fields of human 
‘ !| or, woman is but a gleaner where men are 
1 w reapers. Like Boaz of old, should not 
man command the reapers that they let fail 
s " me of the golden grains of labor that wo¬ 
man may gather them up and find pecuniary 
sustenance as well ns he ? In so doing, Boaz 
found his reward in the added treasures of 
us oun household. Would the present re¬ 
ward of man bo less ? 
Thao are many positions of labor and 
trust now occupied by man, which woman 
Wight equally well hold. Why deny her the 
right to them? True, some steps have al¬ 
ready been taken in the right direction ; but 
there is need of more decided progress, both 
m country and city, and it can be made with¬ 
out detracting from her womanly grace, or 
rendering her masculine in the least, if it be 
accompanied by due cultivation. 
And why should not woman receive for 
tho work which she performs with more 
weariness than man, compensation equal to 
that which he receives for the completion of 
the same work ? Does the argument, which 
indeed is hut a false one, that she is less 
liable to have others depending on her for 
support, lessen the value of the work? Is 
this a sufficient reason why she should lie 
denied the means of providing for her own 
future needs? If so, then in those instances 
in which others do become dependent on 
her efforts, she should receive an increase of 
wages. Is sin; ever so favored ? 
Reasoning thus, the wages of the single 
man should be reduced, for he cannot tell 
of a certainty that othors will ever look to 
him for support. If this system must he 
partially effective, let it be made wholly so, 
and let every one receive for his labors in ac¬ 
cordance with his present necessities. The 
evils resulting from such a system must be 
apparent to all; every man would condemn 
it. Then why force on the defenceless bead 
ol woman evils of so great magnitude. V We 
wish all the women of our land would rise 
fn mam against I his injustice, condemning 
it as a thing of the past, and thus doing 
away with the seeming necessity of woman’s 
marrying for a home, by adding to her rights 
the just one of self-support. 
rtlairus ititb jilanners. 
OLLA PODRIDA. 
by mint wood. 
FLIRTATION. 
It takes two to make a flirtation, it must 
be remembered; and tho ordinary -practice 
Of society—to blame the girl whenever a 
flirtation-copartnership is broken up—con¬ 
stantly produces cases of great hardship. 
Why must it necessarily be the girl that is in 
tho wrong ? A i present, flirtation is accepted 
as a fashionable; amusement, it. is far more 
interesting than beziquc; it is not limited by 
conditions of time and place, like croquet; 
and it has just that spice of danger which 
heightens one’s enjoyment of any pastime. 
When two charming young creatures begin 
to flirL with eaeli other, don’t they know 
perfectly wbat they are about? Falling 
seriously in love is quite another matter, and 
is known by its very different symptoms. 
There is a fine, airy, theatrical appearance 
about a flirtation which the more solemn 
business of love-making invariably lacks. A 
true lover fears to mention ids mistress’ name. 
II(' is half afraid, lest his secret should be 
known to herself. He is silent. He is moody, 
and given to long and vacant staring at the 
tabic-cover or carpet. He secretly watches 
the too-sweet face which has enthralled him; 
anil he has a terrible inward qualm when 
Imr eye candies his. He is miserable when 
lu* is beside her; he is unutterably wretched 
when he is away from her. Tho stars are 
his confidants; he abhors the faces of men, 
and turns away in disgust from the smoking- 
room of Ida club. But tho man who is only 
carrying on a flirtation is a very different 
creature. He plays at making love in a serio¬ 
comic manner which is meant to lie amusing. 
He Is great in the matter of compliments. 
He is easy in manner, jocular, and occasion¬ 
ally (with such brains as Providence has 
given him)even witty. With him (lie trage¬ 
dy of love making is turned into a clever 
burlesque, with plenty of light, brilliant 
dresses, good music and merriment. 
■-♦^4-- 
GOSSIPY PARAGRAPHS. 
An old bachelor editor says:—“ Lovers, 
like armies, get along well enough, till’ 
engaged.’’ 
Women in Russia owning property have 
the right to vote by proxy. Women in this 
country owning husbands enjoy the same 
right. 
A shrewd old gentleman once said to Ids 
daughter:—“ Be sure, my dear, you never 
marry a.poor man; but remember that the 
poorest man in the world is one that lias 
money and nothing else.” 
A 1‘ bench Mayor, who wished to he very 
amiable toward a duchess, who was one-eyed, 
in making out her passport, wrote as follows: 
Byes dark, beautiful, soft, full of expres¬ 
sion one of them aimnl. " This is surely the 
triumph of courtesy, and worthy of the 
nation that plumes itself on its politeness. 
I wish I had your head,” said a lady one 
day to a gentleman who had solved for her a 
knotty point. “And I wish I had your 
heart,” was the reply. “ Well,” said " she, 
since your head and my heart can agree, T 
do not see why they should not go into 
partnership.” And they did. 
A lady somewhat advanced in years, 
whoso vivacity sometimes approached the 
border of impertinence, asked an old man, 
iu rather a jeering tone, why lie was always 
dressed in black, and what be wore mourn¬ 
ing for so constantly. “ For your charms, 
madam,” lie gallantly replied. 
A young lady who affected a disinclination 
to matrimony wrote upon a pane of glass 
some verses expressive of her determination 
never to enter into a holy state. A gentle¬ 
man who doubted the lady’s resolve wrote 
underneath: 
The fair, whose vow these scratchy lines betoken. 
Wrote them on gluss —she knew It would be brokeu 
A Jewish Weililiner. 
Synagogue Ham Jeshureu 
Wednesday,- 1860, 
At Half -past 2, P. M. 
So read tho invitation, and a few minutes 
prior to the fateful hour found us seated in 
the synagogue, which was elaborated with 
fresco in blue and gold and mystified with 
crazy Hebrew characters. 
At weddings, everybody is supposed to 
appear to the best possible advantage, and 
are not Jewesses famed tho world over for 
their beauty? A few young girls with fine 
dark eyes and hair exhibited evidence of 
their Syrian lineage, and were pretty enough. 
But, taking the whwle audience together, 
the men with lmtson, the •women in heavy 
silks and laces and jewels, and yet nothing 
tasteful or harmonious, one could hardly fall, 
from tho physiognomies seen, to wonder 
how the “ curse of God” manifests itself in 
a people. Nobility of character is not ex 
tiuct in the Jews, for we have known very 
noble Hebrews, but we think it, like physical 
beauty, exceptional. 
After some waiting, the bridegroom came 
in with two or three elderly men, and they 
seated themselves in a pew very uncere¬ 
moniously. The husband elect was dressed 
in black, with a high silk hat, white kid 
gloves, and had a tuberose in a buttonhole of 
his coat, 
Tu the enclosure in the center of the syn¬ 
agogue were two Rabbis in black, smoking- 
iike caps and long black gowns. At three 
o’clock, the bridegroom, with the elderly 
friends, entered this enclosure, signed the 
marriage license and returned to their pew. 
One of tho Rabbis then put on a drab 
shawl with a border of black stripes, and 
began the reading of a prayer in Hebrew. 
The men in the audience rose, but sat down 
as they grew weary of standing. The read¬ 
ing of' the prayer was done in their usual 
sing-song manner, part of it in whisper, and 
all accompanied with swinging of the body 
and gesticulation of the hands. After the 
prayer ceased, the Rabbi threw off the 
shawl, and passed under a blue silken cano¬ 
py in front, of the altar, where he was joined 
by the other Rabbi, and tho bridegroom, 
Who Stood between Ins unc le (who officiated 
in place of his absent father,) and the father 
of the bride. A t each corner of tho canopy 
were wax candles burning, and, suspended 
over it, the never cxtinguisliable lamp. 
Here they stood for several minutes when 
one of the Rabbis began to mumble some¬ 
thing In Hebrew to the bridegroom, who 
looked very solemn. The mumbling ended, 
there was a rustle at the vestibule door, and 
the bridal party proper entered. On the side 
of the bridegroom his immediate relatives 
advanced and stood back of him. Up the 
opposite aisle walked the bride alone, fol¬ 
lowed by her mother and immediate friends, 
and arranged themselves under the canopy 
exactly opposite the bridegroom and bis 
friends. 
The ceremony in Hebrew then began, the 
bride, assisted by her mother, drew off a 
glove, and the bridegroom placed a ring 
upon her finger. A glass of w inc was then 
passed to the bridegroom, who tasted of it, 
and passed to tho bride, who did likewise. 
One of the Rabbis followed this proceeding 
with a lecture, or address in English, full of 
good advice to the couple, enjoining upon 
the wife to have hut “one aim in life, and 
that the happiness of lier husband,” and 
upon the husband “to make his home a hap¬ 
py one, and, to be liuppy, it must be virtu¬ 
ous.” After this the other Rabbi stepped 
between them, holding the wine glass, 
chanted a Hebrew hymn, and then gave 
them to drink of the wine, after which the 
husband crushed the glass under his heel, 
signifying that the marriage can no more be 
annulled than the glass he. restored to its 
original completeness. This was the crown¬ 
ing and final act of the ceremony. The 
handshaking and kissing followed, the one 
independent ot the- other, and only until near 
the door did the husband join tho wife. The 
marriage feast followed in the evening, when 
a great variety of substantial edibles was 
served. 
The wedding dress of the bride was a 
heavy, white poult desoui, (which silk ranges 
in price from seven to ten dollars per yai d,) 
with trimmed skirt, a high bodice with 
heart-shaped throat, coat sleeves, and with a 
very little trimming of white point lace. 
The veil was of tulle, completely enveloping 
the head and face, and fastened on with a 
wreath of natural flowers. She carried a 
bouquet of tlie same in her white gloved 
hands. Her mother wore a lavender moire, 
with a point lace shawl of decided yellow¬ 
ness. One bridesmaid wore a rose-colored 
moire trimmed with niching of rose satin 
and white lace; the other, a green gros grain 
trimmed with white Spanish blonde, with 
wreath of lilies-of-the-valloy in the hair. 
FiimIiIoii Notes, »&e. 
Bed spreads and pillow receivers, or 
covers, are shown iu linen, wil.li deep fluted 
ruffles, a border of heavy overshot embroid¬ 
ery, with initial in the center of the pillow 
receivers and just above the border of the 
spread. Those shown were $<>() the sett. 
Christening robes for infants are of the 
most elaborate character, The small waist, 
short sleeves, and the entire front widening 
out to the bottom, are formed of horizontal 
Strips of needlework, between rows of Valen¬ 
ciennes insertion. Under this a satin petti¬ 
coat of bright color, gives prominence to the 
embroidery and lace. 
Write morning dresses of bishop lawn 
for women, are cut gabrieila with every 
scam, except under the arm and on the 
shoulder, faced with colored chambray, 
widening toward the bottom, and crossed at. 
intervals with narrow bands of the white 
lawn. The more elaborate sleeves are formed 
of a succession of puffs, separated with rows 
of tucks. 
Dresses arc mostly made of two colors. 
Walking suits in black silk, have alternate 
ruffles of blue, or white and black, lavender 
or green, while those ill cheaper fabric arc 
similarly fashioned. Necessity is possibly 
the mother of such amalgamation, making 
one good dress out of two poor ones, al¬ 
though one sees the finest materials so ap¬ 
propriated. 
Goocl-Ily. 
And now, good-by, m the an, revoir sense, 
for I’m off from the city. I feel a little as 
“James” did " leaving home,” Unit I used 
to think was such a pathetic story in San¬ 
der’s Fourth Reader. The figures in the 
carpet; the hit of torn wall paper; tie; doves 
that COltm for crumbled crackers on the back 
roof; the newsboy’s shout.; tho fisherman’s 
horn; the milkman's hoot; the ragman’s 
bells ; the groan of weariness my tired laun¬ 
dress gives as she puts down her basket of 
clothes; the cat-like tread of the chamber 
maid ; the characteristic knock of my land¬ 
lady on days when her rent is due; all these 
and a myriad of other sounds and sights are 
to be left behind, and I confess Unit, it will in 
nowise break my heart. The good fellows 
in the Rural office looked at me wistfully 
and enviously, ns 1 silid good-by, and to their 
question of “whither hound?” I pointed 
tragically to the Pacific slopes. The enthu¬ 
siastic commander of tin! Domestic Economy 
forces bears me company, and 1 anticipate 
great mortification in making her behave 
with dignity, as T suspect, she will he peering 
Into the pantries and kitchens and cellars, and 
asking all sorts of questions about. “ tilings” 
in tho dining-room, chamber anil parlor, and 
disgusting me generally with taking “notes,” 
which does very well in a man,but in a wo¬ 
man is dreadful “ strong-minded” and “blue- 
sloeking-i-ficd.” As for myself i don’t in¬ 
tend to do anything worse than to look as 
well as 1 can, and try and make Westerners 
believe that Mr. Moore isn’t tho only good 
looking man in tho Rural, and, finally, to 
have a good time, and come back in the fall 
looking " splendid.” Good-by !—I’m off! 
-—- 
CHINESE HAND-SHAKING. 
The great men who are forced to endure 
swollen hands and weary arms, because sev¬ 
eral thousands of tlieir admirers insist on 
shaking hands with them, will be glad to 
introduce here the Chinese custom. A writer 
says: 
The Chinese mode of shaking hands is 
peculiar, and 1 cannot help thinking, char¬ 
acteristic. Instead of grasping heartily each 
man his brother’s hand, after our Anglo- 
Saxon fashion, the Celestial shakes his own. 
Whether it be that he is afraid to trust it in 
another’s custody, or whether he regards it as 
a thing too good for contact with ins neigh¬ 
bor’s palm, I know not; but if there is any 
shaking hands to do, in salutation, he will do 
it for himself. 
Advancing with his fingers folded on ids 
palms, and his two hands joined together and 
extended forward, he will shake them at. you 
and “ chin-chin” you as much as may be nec¬ 
essary. But he will not touch your hand 
nor will he let you touch his own. 
Once, indeed, ns I remember, I made one 
of a party of officers who were calling on the 
Prefect of Foo-ehow • mid, being a little con¬ 
fused by the suddenness with which my 
coolies tipped me forward from my sedan- 
chair and landed me in his Excellency’s 
presence, and seeing him with hands present¬ 
ed toward me, I grasped ids right-hand cor¬ 
dially and shook it vigorously. 
Chinese politeness Is proverbial; and the 
Prefect maintained his composure as placidly 
as possible; but it was a serious trial to him, 
and he was manifestly gratified to get pos¬ 
session of his hand again when I released it. 
All through the interview he regarded me 
with a sense of injury. And 1 do not doubt 
that, since then, helias been more carefUl of 
bis hands than ever. 
-- 
A gentleman says lie hopes the present 
style of short dresses will long continue. 
Every sensible woman hopes so too. 
Sabbath ticabhm. 
O) ° GD -A 
OUT OF THE FOLD. 
uv VAII, KEN CRICK. 
Out of the foIU which the Uooii Shepherd keeps, 
lilindly 1 wander o’er sin’s rugged steeps, 
Baskina content in the sun’s shining rav. 
Knowing no terrors throughout the long day, 
A lid when night coinoth so dark and so cold, 
Having ihj wishes to enter the told. 
Out of the fold where all safety is found, 
Reckless I letter on dangerous ground ; 
Joyous and giddy I join Ulemuire's ring, 
With wanton voices most loudly I sing; 
I’rlucles* crown-jewels for baubles I’ve sold,— 
Jewels Gun gave mo to enter the fold. 
Out of tho fold, over Time's sea t sail, 
Aimlessly drifting, tho sport of each gale ; 
Round me high billows tumultuously roll. 
Soon they may wreck my poor tempest-tossed soul; 
Wreck It for aye iu the waters so cold. 
Now 1 might uuehor It safe in tho fold. 
Out of the fold, on tho (pilotsands I stand, 
No port In view and no harbor at hand, 
Fleeting an shadows the swift moments glide. 
Death with IBs sickle stands close by my side; 
When the night Cometh so dark and so cold, 
How I shall wish I had entered the fold ! 
Out of tho fold I tender Shepherd I pray 
This wicked heart may now yield to Thy sway : 
This sin-steeped soul may be cleansed in Thy blood. 
This fainting form may he plunged 'nonth Thy flood 
And when my life-hours are finished and told, 
Take me, I pray Thee, a lamb In Thy fold ! 
A VITAL WORD. 
Now. It is a word for tho heart that is 
sorrowing over its sins and longing for one¬ 
ness with its conscience and its Lord. There 
is no need of tarrying. Delay is an added 
sin and a wider straying. Waiting is worse 
than useless. No deepened conviction and 
no added wretchedness on tile one hand, no 
terrible struggle for self-mastery and self- 
purification on tho other, will bring die 
needed relief, or pave the way to the Re¬ 
deemer’s feet, or deepen His sympathy, or in¬ 
crease IBs readiness to welcome and forgive 
and bestow life upon the smitten and baffled 
soul. It is only logo to Him at once, bow 
at His feet, yield the heart to His claim, trust 
His promise, and to-day is sure, to be the day 
of salvation. 
Now. It, is the word meant, for those who 
have been heedless, hard, worldly, resistful, 
and who are putting off the great duty of 
submission. Thu waitod-for-to-morrow may 
never come, or if it does, it may dawn upon 
the transgressor whose disregard of I lie work 
of repentance lias left him lioldcn with the 
cords of bis sins, joined to liis idols, and given 
over to “believe a lie. 
Now. It, is a word for all who have duties 
remaining undone, or glimpses of a better 
life which they have not begun to live, or 
feel the burden and tyranny of letters which 
they long to break, or catch I lie faint breath 
of a peace in whoso air they would daily 
breathe, or discern the beckoning to the 
blessed life where only the spirit rests at 
home. 
Let this word Now be heard and heeded, 
and life will be found in it.— Mofninj Star. 
-- 
Trusting the Master.— Never bn afraid 
to trouble the Master with little cares, or 
with the needs of a temporal estate. 1 Ie will 
listen to everything, and provide everything; 
only trust him with all your heart. The 
veason why some. Christians have so many 
cares and so little comfort is just because 
because they do not acknowledge him in all 
their ways. They lean to tlieir own under¬ 
standing so much, and trust his wisdom and 
grace so little, that they seem to forget that 
lie has nowhere forbidden them to east the 
burdens of tlieir daily life upon him, but on 
the contrary lias invited and commanded 
them to roll all their trouble upon his arm. 
—— -♦♦♦- 
Living for Others. —It is ten thousand 
times harder to live right than to die right. 
It is not difficult for a man to give his life up 
through the chamber of death. But to give 
his life while you hold It, yes, and to tm it so 
that it is a perpetual benefaction all through 
—that is hard, and that is the special Chris¬ 
tian duty. To live in such away that, as 
from the moon by night and the sun by day, 
light and guidance are issuing, from you 
shall proceed an influence that comforts, 
cheers, instructs and alleviates the troubles 
and sufferings of life—this is the true follow¬ 
ing of the Lord Jesus Christ.— Beecher. 
•-- 
Religion Manifest.—I would not give 
much for your religion unless it can be seen. 
Lamps do not talk, but they do shine. A 
light-house sounds no drum, it beats no gong, 
and yet, far over the waters its friendly spark 
is seen by the mariner. So let your actions 
shine out your religion. Let the main ser¬ 
mon of your life tie illustrated by your con¬ 
duct, and it, shall not fail to be illustrious. 
— - - 
During Pay son’s last illness, a friend com¬ 
ing into his room, remarked familiarly, 
“ Well, I’m sorry to see you lying here on 
your back.” “ Do you know what. God puts 
us on our backs for?” said Dr. F., smilingly. 
“ No,” was the answer. “ In order that we 
may look upward.” 
