IN MEMORIAM. 
BY EBEN* E. KEXFOKD. 
Seek i’, and dream, oh truest friend, 
Nevermore ol' care and riot, 
But of reBt that shall not end. 
And the soul’s eternal quiet. 
Oh, sleep sweetly, and forget 
Every earthly care and fret. 
On your grave the grass will grow. 
And the violet hud and blossom 
Even when the winter's snow 
Ides upon your gentle bosom. 
Alii not storm, nor snow, can chill 
Your warm heart, which liveth still. 
Friend, yon e.amiot know the loss 
That Is round about the hours; 
'Tls as though some sudden frost 
Smote the summer’s sweetest flowers: 
For I loved you so ! How well 
My poor words con never tell. 
1 shall alien)/* love you, friend j 
Death can never Util utlection ; 
And, if love can never end, 
It should never know defection. 
So. dear friend, my love will be, 
Always, aa of old, for thee. 
Rest, and dream of this, dear friend,— 
Of how much 1 miss and love you. 
Whisper to me, as I bend 
In my loss and love above you. 
Say—'" 1 love yon, just the same, 
Though I bear no earthly name.” 
I shall hear yon. On your grave 
I will kneel, und whisper over 
Loving words and thoughts of you, 
Like a true and faithful lover. 
Say you love me. friend, the’ dead. 
And I shall be comforted. 
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DON’T-PRAY DON’T. 
BY MAY MAl’LE. 
Don’t tell the little one, who may be slightly 1 
willful, that “ the blank man will come out. of i 
the dark cellar and carry It off If it does not i 
mind.” Don't create it needless fear to go with 
the child through all the stages of Its existence. 
Don’t tell the little, flve-year-old Jimmy “the 
school ma'am will cut off his cars ” pull out 
his teeth"—“tie him up," or any one of the 
horrible stories that are so commonly present¬ 
ed to the childish imagination. Think you the 
little one will believe anything you tell him 
after ho becomes acquainted with the gentle 
teacher who has not the least idea of put ting 
any of those terrible threats into execution? 
Don’t tell the children they must not drink 
tea because It will make them black, while you 
continue the use of It dally. Your example Is 
more to them than precept; and while your 
own face Is fair us a June morning they will 
scarcely credit the oft-told tale. Either give 
up drinking the pleasant beverage or give your 
children a better reason for its non use. 
Don't toll them they must not eat sugar or 
sweetmeats because it will rot their teeth. 
Pure sugar dues not cause the teeth to decay; 
and sugar with fruits is nutritious and healthy, 
notwithstanding the “old saw" to the con¬ 
trary. The case of city children is often cited ; 
the cause of their pale faces and slight consti¬ 
tutions being an over amount of sweetmeats 
with their diet, when the actual cause is waul 
of pure air and proper exercise. 
Don't tell the sick one that the medicine Is 
not had to take, when you can hardly keep 
your own stomach from turning “ inside out” 
at the smell of it. Better by far tell him the 
simple truth, that if is disagreeable, but neces¬ 
sary to his health, and you desire him to take 
it and at once. Ton to one ho will swallow it 
with half the trouble of coaxing and worry Of 
words, and love you better for your Arm, de¬ 
cided manner. 
Don't- tench the children by example to tell 
white lies to each other and to their neighbors. 
Guard your lips and bridle your tongue If you 
desire to have the coming generation truthful. 
Truthfulness Is one of the foundation stones 
of heaven. Remember the old, old book says 
“no liar” shall enter within the gates of the 
beautiful city. There is no distinction made 
between white lies and those of darker hue. A 
falsehood is an untruth whether the matter be 
gTeat or small. 
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WOMAN’S HEART. 
The Rev. Dr. ARMiiAOE.ln his baccalaureate 
sermon to the students at Rutgers College last 
month, took for hissubjeot, “Woman’s Heart,” 
and for his text, I. Peter, 8:5: 
“ Whose adorning, let tt not be that outward 
adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing 
■ jf gold, <n- of putting on of apparel; but let. it 
be the bidden man of the heart. In that which 
Is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek 
and quiet spirit, which Is In the sight of God a 
great price. For after this manner iu the old 
time the holy women also who trusted In God 
adorned themselves, being In subjection unto 
their own husbands,” 
The preacher observed that the Apostle 
would scarcely have warned woman as he had 
done In the text If there were not certain pe¬ 
culiarities which she should specially guard 
against. Iu the analysis of the female heart he 
found an unaccou ntably large element of van¬ 
ity. A vain man was particularly obnoxious 
both to sensible men and women; a vain wo¬ 
man was only tolerable on account of her sex. ( 
Nothing could he more certain than that wo¬ 
man had a strong desire to please. It was 
natural to be admired, and it was certainly her - 
privilege, but it wax a privilege which, when 
not properly understood, led her Into fatal 
mistakes. She might, succeed, for Instance, in y 
receiving a great incense of adulation from 
coxcombs and IrilVers, but she should know / 
that those who did not themselves possess (. 
good qualities were not good judges of the 
qualities of others. To be esteemed rather 
than to bej admired Should be the aim ol' wo- „ 
man. There were two or three classes of van¬ 
ity in woman. The aristocratic woman, for in- , 
stance, might have neither beauty nor art. yet ; 
might she have vanity none the less. She 
might bo vain of the exclusiveness of the circle 
in which she moved, vain of her condescen¬ 
sion, of her tirade of fashionable gossip, of her , 
frigid welcome, of her reproving stare—of , 
everything, in fact, which proclaimed her 
vanity. Wan she an ex-bolle ? She was almost 
too distracted t . live, and what would she not 
do to prolong her reign? When she did de¬ 
scend like a falling star,she fell intotbo hands 
of envy, or into the slough of despondency. 
The vanity of literary women furnished an¬ 
other form. A really well-informed woman 
had not usually much pretension, but there 
were others in which this species of vanity was 
glaring. A man was obliged to plod day and 
night to work during a lifetime to gain the 
laurel or literary distinction ; but In ordinary 
life the woman who was able to write a sonnet, 
or who appeared In an annual, took the crown 
of approbation. Dr. Artniiage next Instanced 
the kind or vanity displayed by the religious 
woman, She became a controversialist when 
she was, perhaps, only a child In faith, and was 
ever ready to sit in judgment, on the pulpit, 
and still worse was It when she drew around 
herself an exclusive coterie that thought them¬ 
selves more holy than their sisterhood. This 
vanity was another form of xclIlshneBB. An¬ 
other defect, Dr. Armltagc said. In the charac¬ 
ter of woman, was a tendency to Irritability of 
temper. lie believed that one of the most 
painful things in man or woman was to throw 
himself or herself into a tempest of rage. The 
mildness of woman's counsels would be more 
effective in securing the fulfillment of her 
wishes than anything she might do in a thun¬ 
der-storm of passion. How unbecoming was 
the voice of clamor raised by sister, wife, or 
mother 1 And here the preacher counseled 
husbands, brothers and fill hers as to their 
duties In the household, reminded them of 
how frequently they were responsible for many 
domestic dissensions which took place, and 
, pointed out that If woman possessed the de¬ 
fects which he had mentioned, she had virtues 
which vastly ccuoterbalaneed them. Woman's 
heart, he said, had Its lights as well as its 
i shades. Her devoted constancy and true at 
, fection were not to be overlooked—eon.-Oenicy 
. and affection which had an existence, not 
1 merely In the day of prosperity, but which 
, wore proof against the direst adversity. Ho 
r did not say that this was always the case, but 
It was at. all events the general rubs He men- 
. tinned the devotion of Ruth to her mother-ln- 
' law as Illustrating this attachment, referred to 
; the devotion of Mary and Martha In following 
’ the Saviour to the cross, and, coming nearer to 
’ our own time, spoke of Die Empress Josephine 
. In her sorrows and trials as furnishing one of 
’ the noblest characters In history. If woman 
had her frailties und follies, she had the radical 
? powers that anchored her to humanity. Her 
superiority to man in sympathy was well 
known, and these things— her sympathy, her 
tenderness, her constancy of affection, her self- 
S! denial, should be remembered against, and 
would outweigh, the foibles which he had rnen- 
U tloned. I n conclusion, he counseled the young 
ladles of the Institution to take the teachings 
* of the Epistle of Peter for their guide, and to 
_ cultivate a quiet spirit and a meek disposition, 
which would be a power to them in this 
’’ world, and would bless them with a happy exit 
,, from It. 
JUading for thg §oung. 
KATY’S GUESS. 
With twelve whtte eggs In a downy nest 
The old hen sits in a box In the shed; 
And the children, yesterday, stood and guessed 
Of the hopes that hid In her speckled breast. 
Of t he dreams that danced through her red-crown¬ 
ed head. 
“ She thinks,” said the Inhor-hating Ned, 
•* Of a land where the weasels are all asleep. 
Where the hawks are blind and the dogs are dead. 
Where are hears or corn ns high ns the shed, 
And plenty of earth-worms fur her to eat.” 
“ she remembers the country fair.” says Bess, 
“ And tho prize she took at Hampton town.” 
“ No, no, she don’t,” cries James the less, 
•* She dreams of her little ducks, 1 guess; 
She Is wondering yet why they didn't drown.” 
And what say you, little curly pate? 
I see a thought in your merry eye. 
“ she fluk.” says the bright-eyed baby Kate; 
As she lifts the latoli of the garden gate, 
" Vere’U be tlckons to skatch for by-and-by." 
Three cheers for the wisdom of throo-ycars-old. 
Who told you the secret, little pet. 
That love Is better than ease or gold, 
That labor for love pays a thousand fold? 
“ Oo nuked It oorsolf ?” Well, don't forget. 
A person had a pair of beautiful horse* to 
sell, which the Presidont wanted to buy. Five 
o'clock in tho morning of a certain day waa 
fixed ax the time for Washington to see them; 
but the horses were not brought till quarter 
past five, when tho owner wue told that the 
President had been there at the hour appoint¬ 
ed, but had gone away. The man thus lost, a 
"good chance of selling his horses by Ills delay 
of one quarter of an hour. 
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GIRLS, HEAR THIS! 
Girls do not always know their power. It 
is far greater than they think; olid, were they 
true mid bravo enough to exort It, they might 
almost. In a generation, revolutionize society 
about them. Exert your power for good upon 
the young men who are privileged to enjoy 
yoursoctety. Gentle and good, bo also hrave 
ami I rue. Try to exhibit the Ideal of a woman 
—a pure and good woman—whoso life Is 
mighty ns well as beautiful iu its maidenly dig 
nlty ami attractive loveliness. Do not let it 
even seem that, dress and frivolity constitute 
your only thoughts; but, let the elevation of 
your character and the usefulnex* of your life 
lift up the roan that walks by your side. Some 
of you nro in intimate associations, which un¬ 
der exchanged promises, look forward to a 
nearer and more enduring relation. In theBe 
hours do nothing to lower, but everything to 
refine and ennoble each other's character. 
The love that will soonest decay, 
The love that is surest to die, 
The love that will soon fly away. 
Is the love 
That Is told by a sigh. 
The love that ts surest to last, 
The lovo that a woman’s heart needs 
The love that will be kept fast, 
Is the love 
That ts spoken In deeds. 
DR. Watts.—D r. Isaac Watt* was remarkable 
for hU vivacity in conversation, although he 
was never forward In displaying It. Being one 
day In a coffee-room with some friends, he 
overheard a gontleruan say, “ What, is that the 
great Dr. Watts ? ” The doctor, who was of low 
statue, turns suddenly round, and, with great 
good humor, repeated a verse from one of his 
lyric poems, which produced a silent admira- 
tlon of his modesty and talent. 
•* Were I so tall to reach the polo. 
Or mete the ocean with a span, 
I must be measured by my soul; 
The mina's the standard of the man.” 
[ Ih,os of Clerical Amcdct 
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There are large, strong hearts which muBt lose 
one or two chips before they can learn their 
own valne. Never mind the pain. 
Prizes for the best loaves of bread, to be 
made by the students, Is a new and hopeful 
feature of several female seminaries this year. 
CARE AND COMMAS. 
The Youth’s Companion has the following 
on “Mind your Commas.” it is well as far as f 
tt goes; but It Is better to mind one’s rhetoric; , 
“The comma, like tho tongue, is a little ( 
thing, and like it. will make good sense or non- 
sense, Just according as tt Is used. Take, for 
instance, tho old nursery rhyme. With the 
commas misplaced, It. is so nonsensical that, it 
needs a commentary to explain It: 
* Every lady In the land 
Has twenty nails on each hand, 
Five and twenty on hands and foot: 
This is true without deceit. 
“Alter the position of the commas and the 
meaning la clear: 
“ ' Every Indy In tho land 
Has twenty iiulls, on each hand 
Five, arid twenty on hands and feet; 
This Is true without deceit.’ 
“ The omtaslon of a comma once gave a very 
awkward meaning to the Inscription on a tomb¬ 
stone ‘ Erected to the memory of John Phil¬ 
lips, accidentally allot as a mark of affection by 
his brother.' A printer, by leaving out, a com¬ 
ma, gave quite a different character to the ver¬ 
dict of a coroner’s Jury:—’ Deceased came to 
his death by excessive drinking, producing ap¬ 
oplexy In the opinion of tho Jury.’ There should 
have boon, as there generally is, a atop after 
apoplexy. An auctioneer once advertised a lot 
of chairs which, he said, had been used by 
school-children without, hacks. 
“The first sentence should have read, ‘ Erect¬ 
ed by his brother, as a mark of affection, to the 
memory of John Phillips, who was accidentally 
shot.’ The second, ‘Deceased, in the opinion 
of the Jury, came to bis death by excessive 
drinking, producing (or bettor, which caused,) 
apoplexy.’ The third should have Introduced 
‘without backs’ directly after * chairs.’ Com¬ 
mas shouldn’t bo made to supply the place of 
careful writing.” 
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BROKEN PROMISES. 
Reader, never break your promises! And 
to this end, never make a promise that you are 
not sure you cun fulfil. You may think it a tri¬ 
fling matter to make an appointment with a 
friend or agree to do a certain thing, and then 
fail to “ come to timebut It Is assuredly not 
a small affair. If you get In the habit of neg¬ 
lecting to make good your promises, how long, 
do you think, will your friends and acquaint¬ 
ances retain confidence in you? The nearest 
and dearest of them will in time learn to doubt 
you, and will put but little faith in your words. 
And there Is a way of half meeting one’s obli¬ 
gations, which might be called "bending" a 
promise, which la also a very bad practice, and 
should be carefully avoided. For Instance, you 
agree to meet a person at a certain time; but, 
instead of being punctual, you “put In an ap¬ 
pearance” several minutes, perhaps an hour, 
after time; or you promise to do something for 
a friend, and only partially perform the duty. 
You may not have exactly broken your prom¬ 
ise, but you have certainly bent it, which is al¬ 
most, If not quite, as bad. Keop your promises 
to the letter, be prompt and exact, and it will 
save you much trouble and care through life, 
and win for you tho respect and trust of your 
friends, _ ^ _ 
VALUE OF BOOKS. 
The book, as a. companion. Is always at your 
service, always willing and pliable. You meet 
with men of service, good thinkers, good speak¬ 
ers, and you do not know how to draw them 
out; but a book Is always open to your wish, 
and shuts whfin you desire, something which 
your professor might not do. In saying these 
things Tor books, I do not forgot that they are 
merely secondary. When the mind itself opens, 
they have to stand aside. Their greatest benefit 
is that by causing t his sumo opening of the 
mind they suvo us from themselvos .—tl oner son. 
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It is a good and safe rule to sojourn in every 
place as if you meant to spend your lifo there, 
never omit ting an opportunity of doing a kind¬ 
ness or speaking a true word, nr making a 
friend. Heeds thus bowii by the wayside often 
bring forth an abundant harvest,. 
The contented man is never poor 
contented never rich. 
©re fuller. 
the dis 
PUNCTUALITY. 
General Washington was a pattern of 
punctuality. When he engaged to meet Con¬ 
gress at noon, he never failed to be at the door 
of the hall just as the clock was striking 
twelve. He always dined at four o’clock ; and 
if the guests whom he had invited were not 
present, the dinner went on precisely at the 
appointed hour, without waiting for them. 
Washington would make no apology, but sim¬ 
ply remark, “Gentlemen, we are punctual 
here.” When those people got another invita¬ 
tion to dine with the President, they would be 
sure to be in time. 
We are- always ylad to receive contributions 
for this Department. 
MISCELLANEOUS ENIGMA.—No. 1. 
I am composed of 33 letters: 
My 19, 24,30, 0,13 is a kind of bird. 
My 8, 28, 4, 29, 10 lx one of t he nine digits. 
My 27, 83,18, 81 is a personal pronoun. 
My 12,32, 33 is a kind of tree. 
My 25,16 Is a verb. 
My 2, 29,1, 1 ts a wild beast. 
My 28,21, 10, 1, 22 Is a kind of grain. 
My 3,20 is a preposition. 
My 20,17, 25, 10, 20 Is to twirl. 
My 9, 29,12, 5 is a part of the human body. 
My 7, It are letters of the alphabet. 
My whole is an old saying. 
{3T- Answer in two weeks. Belle F. 
GEOGRAPHICAL ENIGMA.—No. 1. 
I AM composed of 26 letters : 
My 15,2, 7,11 Is a rivor of Italy. 
My 19,3,23,13 is a city of New York. 
My 22,17, 6,11 is one of the United States. 
My 18,2, fl, in Is ono of the great lakes. 
My 21,12.10.1,2,0,111* a lake In North America. 
My 3,19,15,21,14,18 Is a cape of South America. 
My 7,13, 20, 25 is a Scottish lake. 
My 20,17, 3, l, 5,9 la an island southeast, of New 
Hampshire. 
My 8, 3,13,1,10, 20,15, 4,10 a lake of Utah, 
My whole is a proverb that all should remem¬ 
ber. w. 
Moreland, N. Y. 
Answei In two weeks. 
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HIDDEN CITIES.—No, 1. 
1. Oh ! you have destroyed my flowers. 
2. We went to see the new ark. 
3. I saw an ox fording the stream. 
4. Ha 1 no very great show after all. 
5. I saw a bat hanging by bis hooks. 
0. Step with care when on Ice you go. 
7. l’leaae hand over some of those apples. 
9. Where is the bag dad wanted? 
9. Make a new bed for Dan is coming. 
10. In a severo gale nature suffers much. 
11. At tho sale many were deceived. 
12. Some oat br*#l 
per* Answer i n^|. 
1 In great slices, 
po weeks. 
SQUARE-WORD,—No. 1. 
1. An article of food. 2. 
. A lodge. 
yw Answer in two weeks 
2. A tree. 8. A bird. 
