OCT. 30 
©RE’S RURAL NEW-YORKER. 
JadtfiV foittfolw. 
THE FAMILY RECORD. 
“ Ay, writs If down in black and white— 
The date, the ate. the name: 
For home has newer seemed so dear 
As since onr baby came. 
No ohild before has been so sweet. 
And never babe so wise: 
Ani, John, the neighbors say, Indeed, 
It has Its father's eyes.” 
“ Nay, wife, I'ra sure they’re like your own; 
The rogue's his mother’s boy. 
How straugo that such a tiny form 
Can give such boundless Joy ! 
And you will have him named for me t 
Como, think It o’er again ; 
For ‘ John ’ l» but a homely namo—” 
“ Fay, do not drop your pen, 
“ For 1 John ' shall be liis name, my dear: 
It is his father’s own; 
And though n hundred more were given. 
I’ll call him that, alone. 
His father's eyes, his fathor’s face, 
His fathor’s form. Cm sure; 
God grant ho have his father's heart. 
Life’s hardships to endure !’* 
“ Well, there, ’tls written down at lest; 
The record Is complete; 
Henoeforth we'll lay our loving hearts 
L Beneath our baby's feet. 
Ah, wife, our home's a humble plaoe— 
Wo’ro humble folks-tbat’s true i 
But I’m a king with boundless wealth 
In that young rogue and you. 
" So, baby, wink and blink, my boy. 
Your mother's eyes-” “ Nay, John, 
They are his father’s eyes. Indeed; 
That I insist upon !" 
" Well, bo that as It may, his mouth 
Is waiting for a kiss. 
He’s llko you thero, at loast, my dear. 
Say, do I Judgo amiss!” 
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"LITERARY” MARRIAGES, 
Literary people are more liable to matri¬ 
monial difficulties than other classes because 
they so rapidly exhaust one another. A literary 
man who Is obliged by his profession to ad¬ 
vance in knowledge will soon reach a higher 
piano than that occupied on the wedding day. 
It la possible that such an Instance may witness 
a separation of thought and culture such as 
could never occur in the life of a farmer. Hence 
the wife of a litterateur may become merely his 
housekeeper Instead of his companion. By the 
same rule we notlcothe Impropriety or a woman 
6tr!otly literary in taste, .marrying an Illiterate 
man. We have a number of female writers who 
have attained rank In the world of letters, and 
are married to tnon whnse sole distinction 
Is found in I heir wives. The latter Increase In 
mental culture, while their husbands are en¬ 
grossed with the cares of business. They have 
but little social importance except as being the 
provider or occasional escort. The woman finds 
that her husband dues not equal, and he soon 
ceases to be her real companion. Such a woman 
must pursue a solitary path or find congenial 
society el ewhere. Some years ago, Mrs. Sig¬ 
ourney was u popular writer, but It was little 
known that she was the wife of a more carpet, 
dealer In Hartford. He was very proud of her 
talents, but all that such a man could do was 
to offer the tribute of his praise to his more I 
gifted wife and be oontonted to assume the 
place of the weaker vessel. 
It baa hem questioned whether such unions 
can be formed advantageously, but I think ex¬ 
perience is In the affirmative. A united life of 
t his character should be mutually educational, 
Womun is gener.jOfe n good scholar, while man, 
from the affected and assumed Importance of 
the sex, often objects to receiving lesions from 
a wile. In this he commits a great mistake. 
Another error on the part of literary men (es¬ 
pecially the clergy) Is the expectation of oonju- 
gal praise for their performances. Clergymen 
ere generally ravenous for flattery, and as long 
as the wife administers It her words are accept¬ 
able, but if she offers judicious censure, it Is 
very unpalatable. Areally sensible preacher, 
if he have s clear-headed wife, will find her 
criticisms very useful. It la said by Scott, the 
commeututor, that he read his sermons to his 
wife before delivering them In the pulpit, and 
found her suggestions very valuable. Two 
working editors of this city are married to very 
clever writers, whose earnings are largo. The 
eubjeot of literary marriages has been handled 
admirably by Gilbert Hamilton In his volume 
of letters entitled “ Intellectual Life.” Dr. 
Johnson’s remark may be quoted In the nega¬ 
tive. “ A man.” says he, ** Is, as a general thing, 
better pleased with his wife when she cooks a 
good dinner than when she speaks Greek." It 
Utobe remembered, however, that In John- 
son’s day everybody did not, a3 at present, live 
in boarding-houses. 
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A STORY FOR THE GIRLS. 
encouraged by the promise that I might go after 
the baking. Under good Aunt Rachel's direc¬ 
tions T mixed a big loaf of broad, placed It on a 
tin as bright as a new dollar, and was rubbing 
the flour off my hands when she called out, 
“ This will never, never do, child ; you haven’t 
scraped your bread-bowl clean." 
I shall never forget the ploture she made 
standing there, her eyes regarding me sternly, 
one hand resting on her hip, while In the other 
she held the untidy bowi. 
*’It will never do, child,’’she went on. “It 
is not only untidy, but It makes too rouoh 
waste; to be a good housekeeper, you must 
learn to be economical. You have beard the 
story ofthe young man who wanted an econom¬ 
ical wife ?” 
“No,” [answered, and f might have added 
that I didn't wish to hoar It, either. 
“ Well,” she continued, “ he was a vet y likely 
young man, and ho wanted a careful wife; so 
ho thought of a wav he could find out. One 
morning he 'vent to call upon the dlfferentgirls 
of his acquaintance, and asked thorn each for 
the scrapings of their bread-bowls to rood his 
horses. Vou see they all wanted him, so they 
got all they could for him. Finally ho found a 
girl who hadn't any, so ho ankod her to he his 
wife, because ho thought she must be economi¬ 
cal. “Now,” said Aunt Rachel, triumphantly, 
“suppose a young man should ask you for the 
seranlngsor your bread-bowl, what would you 
say ?” 
“ What, would I say ?” I repeated scornfully ; 
“why, I’d tell him if ho couldn’t afford to buy 
oats for bis horses they might starve. I 
wouldn’t rob the pig to feed them." 
I suppose Aunt Rachel thought that lesson 
was all Inst on me; but as true as you lire, I 
never knead the bread to Ibis day without 
thinking of her lesson In economy .—Detroit 
Free Prets. 
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A LECTURE ON SCOLDING. 
Scolding Is mostly a hahlt. Thera is not, 
much meaning to it. Tt Is often the result of 
nervousness aod an irritable condition of both 
mind and body- A person la tired or annoyed 
at some trivial causa and for Uwlth commences 
finding fault with everything and everybody In 
reach. Scolding Is a habit very easily formed. 
It la astonishing how soon one who indulges In 
H at all heoomrs addloted to It. and confirmed 
in It, It is an unreasoning and unreasonable 
habit. Persons who once got In the way of 
scolding always And something to scold about. 
If them is nothing else, they fall to scolding at. 
the mere absence of anything to scold at.. It 
is an extremely disagreeable habit. It Is con¬ 
tagious. Once Introduced into a family. It 
pretty certain, in a short time, to affect all the 
members. People In the oountry more readl.y 
fall lu tlio hahlt of scolding than people in town. 
Women contract, the habit more frequently 
than men. This may lie because they live more 
constantly in the house, In a confined and heat¬ 
ed atmosphere, very trying to the ucrvoua sys¬ 
tem and the health In general; and it. may be, 
partly, that, tbolr natures are more susceptible 
and their sensitiveness more easily wounded. 
The proper remedy for the habit, if formed, Ik 
to experience an endowment of that divine 
love shod abroad In the renewed heart by the 
Holy Ghost, the characteristics of which are 
that it “ Is not easily provoked,” “ thinketh no 
evil,” and “ beareth all things.” 
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A WOOING NOT LONG A DOING. 
It Is told that Abernethy, while attending a 
lady for several weeks, observ* d those admira¬ 
ble qualities In her daughter which he truly es¬ 
teemed to lie calculated to render the marriage 
state happy. Accordingly, on Saturday, when 
taking leave of hts patient, ho addressed her to 
the following purport;-" You are now- so well 
that I need not see you after Monday noxt, 
whan I shall come and pay you my farewell i 
visit. But In the meantime I wish you and i 
your daughter seriously to consider the pro- ; 
posal l am about to make. It Is abrupt and ( 
unceremonious, I am aware j bur, the excessive f 
occupation of my time by my professional du- 1 
ties affords me no leisure to accomplish what I i 
desire by the more ordinary course of attention j 
and solicitation. My annual receipts amount ' 
to —, and I can settle- on my wife; my t 
character ia generally known to the publlo, bo I t 
that you may readily ascertain what it Is. I ' 1 
have seen in your daughter a tender and atfeo- r 
tlonatc child and a gentle and lady-like mem- t 
ber of a family ; such a person must be all that o 
a husband covets, and 1 offer my hand and for- c 
tune for her acceptance. On Monday, when I a 
call, I shall expect your determination; for I t 
really have no time for the routine of court- t 
ship.” lu this humor the lady was wooed aud p 
won ; and we bolleve ivu may add, the union was 
felicitous In every respect. 
leading for the jffoitng. 
A CHILDREN’S HYMN. 
From the sunny morning 
To the starry night. 
Every look nod motion 
Meets our Father’s sight. 
From our earliest breathing 
Till our latest, year, 
Every sound we utter 
Meets our Father’s ear- 
Through onr earthly Journey, 
Wheresoe’er wo go. 
Every thought and feeling 
Hoes our Father know. 
Let us, then, bo careful 
That our looks shall be 
Bravo and kind and cheerful 
For our Lord to sec. 
Let us c unrd each accent. 
With a holy fear, 
Fit our every saying 
For our Lord to hear. 
Let no thought within us. 
Hidden or confessed. 
Ever bring a sorrow 
To our dear Lord's breast. 
LETTERS FROM ROYS AND GIRLS. 
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A Suggestive Letter from Wisconsin. 
Dear Rural ;— Though not ono of the young 
folks, I would like tossy that, among the first 
things I read in the Rural Is the liters from 
them. I have been amused, If not Interested, 
j In noticing how persistently they follow along, 
one after the other, in telling about tbelr pets 
and brothers and sister*, nod whether they go 
to school or not. ] love pets myself—that Is. I 
love everything that Is lovable. I especially 
delight In our North American birds. Now 
what I would like very much would bo for the 
girls arid Iiojb to tell in tbelr letter* to the Ru¬ 
ral all they know about our birds. Describe 
the different birds you are sure you know, giv¬ 
ing their names ami habits, and I think you 
would please each other as well as mo. I think 
wo are all, old and young, so well acquainted 
wlih the little Pbebe bird tbatltneods no de¬ 
scribing. Though the Phebe has no great 
beauty to boast of, and la by no means n noted 
singer, it la one of my especial favorites; why. 
I cannot toll, unless it Is because of iis sweet 
little call to “Pbebe," bringing bock so Iresb 
and clear the dajB of childhood, li the Editor 
wl’l have patience with mo I would like to tell 
about a nest of little I’hebes that hare already 
this summer left the mother nest arid gone to 
the woods. Grandma being an Invalid, has to 
lio In bod all the days of th*a summer. There 
1* a south door to tier room, a window In the 
door and a porch over It. lu the early spring 
we noticed too little* Phebes flitting around 
under the porch to find a place to build their 
house. We knew it would please grandma to 
see them flitting In and out and alighting in 
the plum treo by the porch In front ol' her win¬ 
dow. So wo put up a little board in shape of a 
shell nml they seemed so well pleaded with the 
Idea that tbey went right to work carrying 
building material. It has been a groat source 
of amusement and pleasure for grandma to 
watch the busy little workers—thou, altorafew 
weeks, to watch them again in their patience 
aud untiring zeal bringing the worms to feed 
tbo little ones. There was more I intended to 
say, but I fear this U too lengthy now.—L. W., 
Albany. Wis. 
From a Western M. Y. Boy. 
Dear Rural I promised to write to you if 
my other letter was published, and I was very 
much delighted to And it in the columns you 
devote to young people. 1 will now tell you 
about the rowing match which was had at 
Sodus Bay. Thero were Uve oluba of four- 
oared shells at the race, and throe one-oared 
scull-:. There were two magnificent steam¬ 
boats to make trips around the Bay during the 
race, and l rode in one of them. I must tell 
you the names of some of the clubs. There 
were the Ontarlos and the Riversides of Roch¬ 
ester, and the Senecas of our place. The On- 
tarios came In ahead, but the Senecas would 
have beaten tLem ten rods if they had not run 
out of t heir course. Everybody acknowledged 
that the Senecas could walk away from the 
others with ease; so they had a duplicate set 
of Silver cups made and gave them to the 
Senecas. I should like to tell you more about 
this grand affair, but r must close, for my let¬ 
ter is so long that I am afraid It w ill nut be 
published.—C. F. II., Seneca Falls , N. Y. 
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come here and see. I do many things that are 
wild and also many that maybe called praotloal 
and refined, for I am (though only 1)3 years old) 
never out of either business or misohtef.—E m. 
V., Fayette Co., Pa. 
From a Virginia Boy. 
Dear Sir I seo that you are taking letters 
from little chaps like myself. I am a Rich¬ 
mond boy, eight years old, and am on a visit 
to a gentleman who takes the Rural. Now', if 
you promise not to throw this In the waste, 
basket, I will write you a short letter, I live 
on a beautiful fnrm near the Warm Spring* 
and I go there every day for my poBt mall. The 
Warm Springs belong to Col. John L. Eubank, 
and he lias had a large number of visitors all 
the season. He gives very lino dinners. I go 
there sometimes to dine. J think the ice cream 
the best part of It. We are now making hay, 
and I help to haul up the shocks. There is not 
much hay made this year because we have had 
so much rain. 1 ace that ono boy writes to 
know lmw to keep the doves from flying off. 
My way Is to take them to the kitchen and out 
their heads off. I will look lu the next Rural 
to soa If you have put my name In It.—T ommy 
B. Lee, Warm Springs, Hath Co., Va. 
From Two Saratoga Cirls. 
Deal Rural : 
We are two little slaters, named Fannie and Mat- 
tie, 
And we love you dearly because you are chatty; 
Near Soratoga Is our retreat, 
And wo gladly welcome you every week. 
Y’ho boys' and girls’ letters are a welcomo sight. 
And we think now that, wo will write: 
It. will ho very funny ir you print pur letter. 
But maybe some time we can do tetter. 
Our pupil's a farmer and reads yt or udvioc. 
And inn mum tlnuke your recipe* nro *o aloe i 
So long ns wc live we shall you cherish, 
And liopo you will always continue to flourish. 
If this will do In your paper to ho. 
We shall feel much plenscd It In print io »ee, 
And win sign our Domes Fannie md Mattie G. 
From a Ceorgta Obi. 
Dear Mr. Editor :-I thought, r would write 
to you, and have been thinking over what to 
write. I have been reading the hoys' and girls' 
letters. I like 1o writo to your paper very 
much, for we have taken It. for three years. I 
like It very much. I wish I could write some, 
tiling to Interest tbo young readers. Our 
school had a nice May party. I enjoyed my¬ 
self a gloat, deal. We were all dressed in white 
and wo had two queens ; one was May Queen 
and the other Fairy Queen. They were dressed 
very handsomely. We sang and danced and 
had a merry time. I hope you will excuse my 
long letter. I shall write again.— Jennie J., 
Atlanta , Ga. 
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ILLUSTRATED REBUS.-No. 9. 
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lu ^ K V. 
5 IT down on the porch, children, and let me 
tell you about Aunt Rachel and the story she 
once told me. One dsy, when I was about 
twelve years old, I had planned to go after 
strawberries; but Aunt Rachel aald to me, “ A 
girl of your age should begin to learn howto 
do housework. Take off your hat, roll up your 
sleeves, and help me do the baking,” 
I pouted and sighed and sbed tears, but was 
fit tbat lacks time to mourn, lacks time to mend. 
Eternity mourns that. 'Tt* an Hi cure 
For life's worst Ilia, to hare no time to feel them. 
Where sorrow’s held intrusive and turned out. 
There wisdom will nut emer, nor true power, 
Nor aught that dignifies humanity. 
Very Tew of u?, indeed, are ever willing to 
sacrifice our own comfort to enhance the hap¬ 
piness of others; but there Is ofl en much pleas¬ 
ure to be derived In renderingcomfort to others. 
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None are so poorus thoso who, having money, 
yet through a miserly spirit, deprive themselves 
of the U 30 and benefit of it. 
From n Young Pennsylvania Girl. 
Mr. Rural: —We have taken your paper 
ioDger than I can recollect. It is one of seven¬ 
teen papers that come hero, and I gather many 
practical receipts and suggestions Irom them— 
besides I get some pram! ideas and read many 
interesting things, for these papers come from 
all over a great country. W© get the nows arid 
many peculiar Ideas, and representations of in¬ 
teresting things from away yonder in California 
and Oregon and several of the South western 
Territories; also muny of the Southern States; 
arid 1 get my atlas and look over it and jjoon 
get bewildered in the great amount of land be¬ 
tween our farm and many of these place*. Some 
time I may tell you what I can d >, or you can 
13r ‘ Answer in two weeks. 
CROSS-WORD ENIGMA,—No. 10. 
My first Is In post but not In rail, 
My second is In old but not In stale; 
My third is in scytbo but not in sickel, 
My fourth is in lead hut not in nickel; 
±Iy fifth la in think but not in £ueaa, 
My sixth is in no but not In yes; 
My seventh is in boat but not in oar, 
My eighth is in house but not in store : 
My ninth is In give but not In reject, 
My whole is a destructive Insect 
Answer In t wo weeks, 
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DOUBLE ACROSTIC.-NO, 1. 
1. Isa lake InTuracj. A. Is a city In Massa¬ 
chusetts. 3. Is a city In New Hampshire. 4. Is 
a city In Sicily. 5. Is a country in Europe, 6. 
Ts a city In Persia. 7. Is a province of Italy. 
Initials are a lake between the United States 
and Canada. Finals are one of the United 
States. 
Answer in two weeks. 9 , H> 
PUZZLER ANSWERS.—Oot. 18, 
Geographical Enigma No. 2.—“ Faith in 
to-morrow Instead of Christ it Satan’s nurse 
for man’s ruin.” 
Decapitation No. 3.—Hearth, heart, hear, 
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