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MARCH 49 
THE RURAL NEW-YORKER. 
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claims to the consideration of Intending Insurers. 
Thk expression “A 1,” popularly used to de 
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the symbols of the British and foreign ahlpplng- 
11st of the Lloyds “A" is used to designate the 
character or conditions of the hull of a vessel, and 
the figure “ 1” to denote tbe efficient state of 
her anchors, cables, and stores, if those are In¬ 
sufficient In quantity or quality, the figure " 2” 13 
used to indicate the same. When It Is said of a 
ship, “ she Is A l,’* It means that she Is all right 
as to hull, rigging, and equipments. 
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nop Bitters give good digestion, active liver 
good circulation and buoyant spirits. 
Homtstir (fronotni). 
CONDUCTED BY EMILY MAPLE. 
CONCERNING THE INETRFERENCE OF 
THE FATHER-IN-LAW AED THE 
MOTHER-IN-LAW J* DO¬ 
MESTIC AFFAIRS. 
MARY WaGEK-FISHER. 
Anaximander came home from his office a 
night or two ago, and as we were at dinuer he 
remarked: “ I think that a good many people 
are made unhappy by the interference or pe¬ 
culiarities of their relatives in their domestic 
affairs. A client of mine who was in the office 
to-day, was telling me of the trouble she had 
in her family. She has her own mother with 
her and her father in-law, and I imagine that 
6 he has as much annoyance from Iheoueas 
from the other, etc., etc ," an extension of 
conversation that need not be repeated here, 
but which further illustrates the matter in 
hand. 
A great deal of anathema has been hurled in 
tbe newspapers at ihe “ mother-in-law,’’ but 
such expressions have come chi>. 11 v from men 
who for well or ill founded reasous have come 
to regard that relative as altogether a super¬ 
fluous personage in tbe'r own households. But 
I fled that women, as a rule, have more 
trouble from the lather-iu-law, who. if he be 
given to meddling with household affairs, is a 
nuisance of the first water. I wish to say, be¬ 
fore proceeding further, that some of the 
sweetest and most delightful members of fam¬ 
ilies are sometimes the father or mother-in- 
law, and no word of praise can be too high for 
them. But there is another class equally well- 
meaning may be. but who succeed In making 
the younger households, of which they may be 
permanent or occasional members, extremely 
unhappy from their habits of meddling with 
what—I put it iH plain terms—is none of their 
busiuess. And I am goffig to point out some 
of the things which parents-in-law do, which 
th*y ought not to do, and ought to do. 
I’ll begin with the father-in-law. He will 
please to keep out of the kitchen just as much 
as he possibly can. He will not poke his nose 
into closets or cupboards, parley with the do¬ 
mestics, investigate the condition of the 6will 
barrel, the ask barrel, the coal bin, worry him¬ 
self about the. kerosene or gas bills, or make 
purchases of provisions for (he family under 
the pretence that he can buy more cheaply 
than the mistresB of the house ; let him do 
none of these things unless especially com¬ 
missioned so to do by the mistress of ihe 
house. If he thinks that the daughter-in-law 
or son-in-law is wasteful, improvident or a 
bad manager, the best thing fur him to do, 
decidedly, is to keep his thoughts to himself, 
for in all probability things ate better managed 
and belter taken care of by the second genera¬ 
tion than they were by the first. And even if 
they are not, it is far better to pa. ; s the matter 
over in silence than to comment upon the 
same, and thereby engender bad ieeling6. 
When advice is asked, give it to the best of 
your judgment, but don’t proffer it loo freely 
unasked. 
Do the father and mother live who think 
that their children, when they marry, aie 
quite a6 competent to manage a household as 
they themselves were before them when ihey 
married ? I opine not. But it does not follow 
that they are not, none the less. At ali events, 
they like to do as tin y please and not be made 
to feel that they are still in leading-strings. 
I think oue great fading of Lhc mother-in- 
law is a proneuess to criticise “ John.” True. 
John may not be a piece of perfection ; if he 
had been he would not have married her 
daughter. The mother-in-law is as prone to 
tell her daughter how she ought to manage 
John, and she is apt to complain to John 
about what a hard time her daughter has. 
Then, too, the mother-in-law is given, more 
than the lalher-in-law, to criticising the 
habits of the children and how '* sboeklngty 
thty behave." I think when parents presume 
to speak disrespectfully of the husband or 
wife of their child, to the child, that the duty 
of the latter is to disable lheir own guns at 
once with a well-directed shot. Such com¬ 
ments are altogether out of place and should 
never be allowed. Another fault of the father 
and mother-in-law—and it i3 one that the 
younger folks are not free from—is their ten¬ 
dency to a “penny wise and pound foolish” 
policy, fretting over trifles and occupying 
themselves so much with trivial matters as 
quite to overlook matters of real Importance. 
To be able to save and apply one’s best ener¬ 
gies. time, opportunity and money to the im¬ 
portant things, and let, the unimportant things 
'* go," is genius—the greatest gift with which 
one can be endowed A fretful, peevish, hyper¬ 
sensitive parent-in-law in a household, is as a 
thorn in the flesh. The older a person grows, 
the more amiable and less irritable be ought 
to become. By the time a man is seventy ho 
should know how silly and useless it is to fret, 
how many and great the trials of life are, and 
do all he can to smooth the pathway of the 
youDger feet about him. 
Nobody likes a visitor who comments upon 
the way the house is managed—unless the 
words are commendatory—or who invades the 
kitchen, or asks why you don’t have things so- 
and so. And what Is true in regard to a visi¬ 
tor is equally true in regard to a parent. He 
should remember that he is not in his own 
home, if the reins of government and of man¬ 
agement have been intrusted to other hands. 
He should no more venture to meddle with the 
affairs of the household than he would if he 
were a guest in the house of a friend, or a 
boarder in a hotel. And the same applies to 
tbe mother-in-law and to one and all other 
relatives dwelling in the household, who are 
not authorized to act in such capacity by a 
mandate from head-quarters. 
Finally, if parents live with their children, 
ought they not in all reason to conform so far 
as possible to the customs that prevail in the 
house? And when the children live with their 
parents, they ought, in all conscience, to con¬ 
form to the customs of the parents. In either 
ease, it is impertinence to meddle with ser¬ 
vants, or to comment upon the “mismanag' - 
meut” of an establishment that i3 not your 
own. If the father-in-law aDd the mother-in- 
law desire to make their presence ia the home 
of their children a pleasure and a blessing, 
they will most scrupulously mind their own 
business, difficult as it may be. 
A great deal might be said concerning the 
duty of the danghter-ln-law and the son-in- 
law, but that topic is not under discussion at 
this moment, and then, too. tv sunny-hiirta 
laddie is begging me. book in hand, to read to 
him “ about the bears," 60 here’s to the bears. 
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THE KITCHEN CLUB AT HILLSIDE. 
ANNIE L. JACK. 
It is a long time since I have given our 
readers a sketch of the doings of the Kitchen 
Club. But in the meantime the season has 
gone round and with it many changes. The 
Methodist minister’s wife has moved away, 
and taken with her our best wishes and a new 
tea set, and new-made graves in the church¬ 
yard have made a sad break among the mera- 
oers. “Some are married, some are dead,” 
but everything must be renewed, even as the 
seasons are, and a few of the ladies met at Hdl- 
side to discuss the given topic. It was *• Pin- 
Mom y,” and we found it touched tbe feelings 
of all. married or single, though the younger 
members took a brighter view of the subject 
than those who had suffered more deeply. 
Mrs. Ohapmau read from Scribner’s in “Topics 
for the Times.” a wise man’s opinion, and. 
though Miss Whitand said papa waR always 
willing to give her what she asked, we advised 
all contemplating matrimony to have a mar¬ 
riage settlement however small—something to 
call their own. 
Young ladies, if enterprising, can earn some¬ 
thing for themselves outside of their home; 
art needlework is only one outlet, but women 
could make for themselves maty other wavs, 
Mrs. Welsh read an extract from a paper 
which was to the effect that a wood engraver, 
being asked why ho did not employ glrlB, re¬ 
plied that a man engaging in the business un¬ 
dertook it as a life work, but a woman 6eemed 
to have no ambition to excel. 8he does not 
feel that her independence is to be sustained by 
it and generally marries, and gives it up as 
6 oou as possible. I thought this something of 
a libel from my knowledge of our sex; but 
then every one must judge from his or her own 
experience. Mrs. Tompkins advised ladies to 
take a specialty in fruit growing—to raise oue 
thing well and of the best quality for spare 
money, while Miss MacGregor told us she 
bought all her groceries with the produce o( 
her bees, and thought in bee-keeping there 
wa^. a field for usefulness, that was open to 
women. 
Some of the young ladies had tried poultry 
with different measures of success. So much 
depends on care and perseverance in every¬ 
thing! Bat Mrs. Chapman’s remarks Impressed 
us deeply, and we determined that our daugh¬ 
ters should profit therefrom. She said “ it re¬ 
quires more courage to at k your husband for 
fifty cents, than it would to take earn of your 
children through the whoopiDg-cough. You 
work, and save, and manage his household ac¬ 
cording to your best knowledge; he is what is 
called a * good provider;’ there is no lack of 
plenty to eat, or even to wear; but—who has 
not seen the look—‘ My good woman, what do 
you need with money ?’ ‘ To jiugle it in our 
pockets, my lord and master, as we did when 
children, one cent against another; to pay our 
postage, give to poorer neighbors’ children, 
and to spend it in a hundred other inconsistent 
ways. So let us, as members of this club, 
strive to be independent and earn for ourselves 
if possible, or at least let us teach our daugh¬ 
ters the way to attain excellence in one branch 
of business for profit,’’ We smiled, and com¬ 
mended the energetic lidy’s remarks, and ad¬ 
journed to the tea table still discussing the 
merits of the case. 
DOMESTIC RECIPES. 
Pie Plant Pie. 
Slice verv thin into an earthen dish. Allow 
a large coffeecupful of pie-plant to a large 
teacupful of white sugar and two teaspoon¬ 
fuls of flour. Stir together, let stand while 
making the crust. 
A Nice Plain Pudding. 
One quart of flour; butter the size of au egg; 
a pint of milk; two tablespoonfuls of baking 
powder; one cup of cut raisins. Steam one 
hour in a two quart dish. Boil a pint of milk, 
add sugar, two tablespoonfuls of flour and 
flavoring for the sauce. 
Pumpkin Pie. 
As made 100 yearB ago with this difference 
that then they made a big panful. I will give 
you ingredients for one pie. One coffee cupful 
of stewed pumpkins : two of milk ; a small 
handful of flour ; two teaspoonfulB of ginger, 
a dust of allspice or nutmeg on top—no eggs. 
Bake in a very quick oven. The crust will not 
be soggy, if the oven be hot enough on the 
bottom. Mrs. G. C. C. 
Bread Mullins. 
Take four or five slices of bakers' bread, cut 
off the crust?, put into a pan and pour over 
hot water, only just sufficient to soak the 
slices. Let stand an honr. drain off auy liquor 
that you cau. beat the mass smooth, mix in 
half a pint of sweet milk, two tablespoonfu!- 
of 6ifted flour, a tablespoonful of melted but¬ 
ter, a little salt and three well-beaten eggs. 
Have muffin rings as well as baking-pan hot 
and buttered aid fill each twe-thirda full 
Bake brown in a quick oven. Eaten hot. 
Apple.Corn Pone. 
One quart of finely chopped apples; one 
quart of Indian meal; scald with a pint of 
boiling water, add sweet milk to make a stiff 
batter, then stir in the apples, add a little salt. 
Bake iu a close vessel three hours or pour into 
a tin pail, cover tightly aud boil in a kettle of 
water for the same time. Eaten with sweet¬ 
ened milk or cream. Mary B. 
Wanted—Stamping Powder. 
Cun any of our readers give W. Rasch a 
recipe for a stamping powder that will stamp 
on all kinds of cloth ? 
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