SUBS I 
SAL NEW-YORKER. 
everybody and their own Judgement: but pride 
holds them back from acknowledging weakness. 
They are miserable: and many another man In 
adverse circumstances Is far happier, and enjoys 
better health, sleeps better at night, and lives to 
enjoy life years after the other had left his wealth 
to he squandered by his heirs. 
It la well when ono of the few “ live and let 
live ” men prospers, for then he is happy himself 
and ti les to make others so. As men of this good 
disposition makes a sunshiny existence for many 
of those who are brought In contact with him, 
and he has the good will of everybody, while the 
selfish, miserable man who wants to take advan¬ 
tage ot everybody, Is hated and detested beyond 
measure. The man in adversity moves lower 
down than form erl.v. but having once got Bettled 
Into the lower grade, finds himself much more 
comfortable than he expected, and If he does not 
unfortunately, get placed In a situation under one 
of the opinionated, smart, domineering class, he 
comes round In time to be a respected member of 
society, and enjoys peace of mind and long life, 
sometimes these prosperous men become so 
wretched, and feel the pangs of remorse to such a 
degree, that they will end their lives by their own 
hands. 
How much better then it must be for any man 
who has fortunately commenced to make money 
to let the poor enjoy some of It, and instead of 
beating them down in their wages, to pay them 
well and have their love instead of hate I 
8. B. P. 
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BRIC-A-BRAC. 
BY 0. H. K, R. 
Shall I not be forgiven for repeating good Pul¬ 
ler’s word3, even though they may Jar a little 
upon some wedded ears ? “ Deceive not thyself 
by over expecting happiness In the married state. 
Look not therein for contentment greater than 
God will giro, or creature In this world can re¬ 
ceive—viz., to be free from all Inconveniences. 
Marriage Is not like the lilll Olympus, wholly 
clear, without clouds. Remember the nightin¬ 
gales, w hlch si ng only some months In the spring, 
but commonly are silent when they have hatched 
their eggs, as if their mirth were turned Into a 
care tor their young ones.” 
We have seen many beautiful tributes to lovely 
woman, but tli8 following Is the finest we ever 
road: “Place her among the flowers, foster her 
as a leader plant, and she Is a thing of fancy, 
waywardness, and folly—annoyed by a dewdrop, 
fretted by the touch of a butter fly's wing, ready to 
faint at the sound of a beetle, or the rattling of a 
window-pane at night, and she Is overpowered by 
the perfume of the rosebud. But let real calamity 
come, reuse her affections, enkindle the fires ou 
her heart, and mark her then I How strong 13 
her heart! Place her In the heat of battle—give 
her a child, a bird or anything to protect—and 
sea her, iu a relative Instance, lifting her white 
arms as a shield, as her own blood crimsons her 
upturned forehead, praying for her life to protect 
the helpless. Transplant her In the dark places 
ot the earth, call rorth her energies to action, and 
her breath becomes a healing, her presence a 
blessing. She disputes inch by inch the strides 
of a stalking pestilence, when mau,the st rong and 
brave, pale, alfrlghtcd, shrinks away. Mlsiortune 
haunts her not, she wears away a life of silent 
endurance, and goes forward wllih less timidity 
than to her bridal. In prosperity she is a bud 
full of odors, Waiting but for the winds of adver¬ 
sity to scatter them abroad—pure gold, valuable 
but untried la the furnace, in short, woman Is a 
miracle, a mystery, rrom which radiates the 
charm ot existence.” 
It has always seemed to me that the wedding 
ring has not been developed to Its full capabili¬ 
ties. It should always bear on Its Inner surface 
some neat and appropriate Inscription. It Is best 
to put it on the Inner side because friction will 
gradually obliterate the letters, just as the men¬ 
tal friction, will etrace t he seutlmont, the longer 
the devoted couple remain together, it.Is seldom 
she calls John Aridetson my Jo John, when his 
locks are like the snow, but rather lassoes him 
with a string or complaining epithets, whose bur¬ 
den is that there Is no wood in the house, and 
he sits around doing nothing industriously while 
the ax Is rusting la the shed. Now In the Middle 
Ages, aud to the close of the ITth century, It was 
the custom to embroider love with written senti¬ 
ment. Here are a rew models that may be mod¬ 
ified for use at the present time: 
“ Pray to love, love to pray" (1647). 
“ Divinely lcnlt by grace are we: 
Late two, now one; the pledge herelsee" (1657). 
" Ever love; loye the giver," 
" My promiao past shall always last; 
In Christ aud thee my comfort be.", 
“ Happy in thee haB God made me." 
“ MoBt yn myud and yn myn heart. 
Lothest from you for to depart. 
My heart and I uutill I die." 
“ If I think my wife is fair, 
What need other people care !•' ? *~ 
" I did commit no act of folly 
When I married my sweet Molly." 
“ I cannot show tho love I O." 
“ Let him never take a wife 
That will not love bor as his life; 
Love ono little, but love one long." 
“ First love Christ, that died for thee; 
Next to Him love none but me." 
Jur Mlomctt. 
[CONDUCTED BY MISS FAITH RIPLEY. 
MY QUEEN. 
ALFRED BULLY. 
queen of my life, 
Uron my heart's moBt guarded wall 
The sentry waits thy royal call; 
For thee tho gates wide open swing. 
For thee the bells their welcome ring. 
For thee—" The Queen !” 
For t.hce, my love, my life, my queen ! 
Queen of my love. 
With royal grace of tenderness! 
Thy sweet lips speak alone to bless, 
Each passion of my nature stands 
Obedient to thy loved commands— 
For pure, serene, 
Thou reign'st of all my life tho quoen. 
Queen of my home. 
Thy castle, though too mean for thee. 
Holds treasures worth a kingdom’s fee, 
Enthroned in thy womanhood; 
Iu all things pure and sweet and good, 
Thou reign’st sereDe— 
My children’s mother and my queen 1 
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VEST, COLLAR AND CUFES. 
Figures 1 and 2 represent an arrangement, 
which Is like a plastron vest, with cuffs to place 
on outside the wrists of long coat sleeves. The 
Fig. 1 . 
vest Is made of Italian lace Insertions Joined to¬ 
gether with a very tiny Hamburg Insertion of 
SwLss muslin, and a narrow Hamburg Is also up¬ 
on all the outer edges. A ruffle ot Italian edging 
passes about it and the center of the front has a 
ruffle arranged on each side of the Hamburg In¬ 
sertion to form a cascade cr jabot. The closing 
edge which Is underneath has tiny buttons upon 
It and little button-holes are made In the strip 
which Is ornamented, but both the buttons and 
A 
Fig. 2. 
button-holes are Invisible, because of the droop¬ 
ing of tho laces. The back of this vest maybe 
pointed or somewhat square like a sailor collar or 
Pompadour, that Is narrowest, at the lower edge. 
To make It, cut a model of stiff or firm papor and 
baste the Insertions to It, beginning with the out¬ 
er one and permitting the others to be cut as re¬ 
quired. Baste tho seams carefully, with the 
parts upon the paper, and then remove and 
stitch them with a machine. The edges beneath 
the cascade may bo of Swiss muslin. It the Ham¬ 
burg Insertion tie not abundant. The insertion 
which Is folded Into the required shape at the 
back; must bo ueatly overhanded afterward and 
the double part out away ou the under-slde. A 
wider luce upon the edges adds much to the ele¬ 
gance of the vest. 
Flo. 8 . Fio. 4, 
At Figs. 3 and 4 are shown collar and cuff of 
double cambric or llneu, with embroidery In F.n- 
gllsh wheel-work upon their edges. Some ladles 
who uauuot accomplish this work rapidly, pur¬ 
chase an edging that Is pretty serviceable, and 
then transfer It to the collar and cuffs which have 
been cut to a shape which fits and pleases them. 
To do this, cut away the cambric, but not too 
closely to the wrought figures, baste It flrrnly to 
the position where It Is wanted to he, and over¬ 
hand or buttonhole the Inner line of the work to 
the outside of the article. After this Is done, cut 
away any rough edges of the cloth, which still 
attach to the ornamental part, and also cut away 
the undeslred projecting portions cf the collar and 
cuff material, that still remain underneath. Linen 
collars that are made and turn over a la Byron, 
or those In EDglish style, are equally popular. 
Both forms are worn with outside cuffs or Inside 
straight cuffs, and also cuffs that flare. 
Neckties of shaggy silk and embroidered ties of 
silk, muslin, and lace, are fashionable. 
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THE BABY SHOW. 
MRS. POTIPHAK. 
If It had not been demonstrated, one would 
hardly have conceived It possible that there could 
be found In this age women so lacking in self-re¬ 
spect as to exhibit themselves as mothers. 
There are those who profess to be shocked at 
woman’s asking for a right to the exercise of the 
elective franchise. Whole tomes have been writ¬ 
ten about the Indelicacy of woman’s going to a 
polling place to deposit a vote—where she would 
attract no more attention than she does now in 
public conveyances. In church, or the theater. 
These same sensitive people have been further 
outraged by woman’s practicing law, and their 
rage atlalned the superlative degree when. In de¬ 
fiance of St. Faul and more modern ecclesiastical 
authorities, she has asserted her right to act as 
Christ's ambassador and tell the gospel message 
from the heretofore zealously-guarded pulpit. 
On all sides she has been denounced as unsexlng 
herself, as coarse, wanting In delicacy and utterly 
destitute or modesty,because In these, various ways 
she has sought to prove her right to be the peer 
of her brother in the kingdom of mind. In all 
this she asked to be considered as an intellectual 
being, and men have derided her. 
Where were these fastidious folks during the 
baby-show opldemlo 7 They uttered no protest, 
and It is consequently fair to suppose that these 
sticklers for modesty In women saw no Impro¬ 
priety tn these shows, 1 put it to you candidly, 
which Is the more Indelicate—exhibiting one’s- 
self and one’s offspring as animals, or carrying 
Christ’s message of pardon to a sin-stricken 
world 7 
The mere fact ot a woman’s fglvlng birth to a 
child, entitles her to no special consideration or 
respect. The females of all created things share 
this power with her. It has nothing to do with 
her Intellectual or spiritual life. It pertains solely 
to her lower or animal nature. What enno¬ 
bles and refines motherhood, are the all hut Go»- 
Jtke qualities that, are developed lu the woman— 
the Infinite tenderness, the utter self-abnegation, 
and It is because of my profound admirat on und 
respect for the motherhood of the world that I am 
Indignant at women prostituting what should be 
the most sacred and the holiest relation of life by 
exposing themselves and their Innocent children 
to the ribald Jests or miscellaneous crowds. 
Any woman possessed of the least possible deli¬ 
cacy, must have been grieved at the tone the 
dally papers assumed 1 q reporting the baby- 
shows. The exhibited—mother and child—wpre 
ta'ked of much as though they were cattle. The 
press, however, was not to be blamed. The women 
voluntarily made of themselves targets for all 
the Jokes and tho hot always cha 3 te allusions 
that were made. 
Setting aside the question of delicacy, what 
good Is accomplished by these displays 7 Cattle 
and dog shows are made to serve a useful pur¬ 
pose. The. visitors have an opportunity to com¬ 
pare the different modes ot breeding, and the re¬ 
sult Is a more intelligent care of stock. Will any 
one pretend to assert that the next generation of 
babies will be any the better born or bred for tho 
shows of to-day/* 
Imagine the withering scorn with which one of 
the exhibiting mothers would meet any such sug¬ 
gestions : and yet. If they chose to put themselves 
and their Infants on a level with dogs, cats, and 
cows. It hardly behooves them to grow indignant 
when people very naturally fall to Instituting 
comparisons. 
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DANCING. 
[From the New York World, Jan. 14,J 
Almost without exception, New York physi¬ 
cians agree that dancing. Inclusive of the waltz, 
is per se harmless. Almost as unanimously they 
condemn certain of Us common accessories or 
some of tbe physical conditions under which It is 
done. The Indigestible midnight supper la bad. 
but not, the dancing; the foul air and draughts 
are bad, but not the daueltig. As to the Immor¬ 
ality, they don’t believe In It. The views of sev¬ 
eral clergymen are presented also and speak tor 
themselves. 
The venerable Dr. Erasmus E. Marey, of No. 1 
West Thirty-fourth street. N. Y., said that he was 
In favor ot all kinds of lnuocent recreation. 
"There is no doubt.” he continued, "that tho 
conditions which surround dancing are sometimes 
the cause of serious physical Injury. Especially 
Is this true of the exposure ot thinly clad women 
to drafts and t he cold air. But this evil is uot di¬ 
rectly chargeable ou dancing, since ladles go to 
the opera and the theatre and to dinner parties In 
full dress. As for J and eg per se I think It an in¬ 
nocent and healthy recreation. 1 have always 
said that we did not have half enough recreation 
In this country. People will Insist upon working 
too many hours a day and devoting too little 
time to recreation. I think that billiards at 
home, dancing, sociables and all similar plea¬ 
sures are tUe greatest need of the nation. In 
many years of practice T have found the people 
who have attained an advanced age, are the peo¬ 
ple who have always been happy and Jolly, and 
while taktng good care ot themselves have at the 
same time been given to pleasant recreation. I 
look upon every one who encourages the intro¬ 
duction of English sports, such as riding and 
shooting and walking, In tbe light of public bene¬ 
factors. I think, In short, t.hat It yon were to put 
it to the vote of the physicians ot this city you 
would find a very large majority of them were lu 
favor of dancing. 
“I think that, as far as the idea that, the con¬ 
tact of the sexes In dancing gives rise to im¬ 
proper thoughts Is concerned, it, only exists In 
the prurient lmmaglnatlons or the people who 
write the books containing suoh suggestions, 
and that the only people who could indorse 
such work must be those who retain the old 
Puritanical notions which existed In New Eng¬ 
land when I was a boy. All the dancing I have 
ever seen has been done with delicacy and pro¬ 
priety.” 
Dr. M. 1L Henry, of No. 1ST West Thirty-fourth 
street, said that dancing was not injurious In 
Itself; It only became so under certain conditions 
which surrounded It, and lu Its accessories. But 
these accessories might bo more properly spoken 
of as belonging not to dancing especially, but to 
all evening entertainments. “ There are times,” 
he said, “when taking an extraordinary amount 
of exercise is injurious, but this is equally true 
of walking or riding to excess as well asdnnclng, 
except It be that the latter presents greater temp¬ 
tations to tbe taking of such exercise than the 
others. American women are poorly nourished 
improperly fed as a rule, and t hey are Improperly 
dressed, although in that respect there has been 
some improvement lately. For these reasons 
they are not strong. Then there are certain per¬ 
iods when a women is totally unfitted for taking 
any exercise whatever. At such times French 
women and English women very largely go to 
bed and Btay there, while American womem go 
out and dance and walk to excess. The walking 
Is as bad as the dancing, and both are very injur¬ 
ious. Then there are the suppers which are tur- 
nlsbed to people at dancing entertain arms—tees 
freezing cold, greasy salads, coffee boiling hot, 
and the like. The38 ot course, are injurious to 
anybody. 1 have not read the book ou dancing 
entitled ‘Tbe Dance of Death,’ tut I have read 
extracts rrom and reviews of It, anu I t hink that 
such books are likely to do more lmrm to their 
readers than dancing will ever do them. 1 think, 
to sum the matter up, that dancing In properly 
ventilated rooms is a healthful exercise.”—Con¬ 
cluded next week. 
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CHAOS. 
lily hemlock. 
The Rural gentlemen seem to admire the 
“ quiet corner,” but la there a ny prospect of peace 
while " Lances" and " Sword Sticks" are so ireely 
used7 # My limited a< qualntunce with human na¬ 
ture has proved such weapons unnecessary, at 
least In Ruraldom. 
We adrn’re " Sword Slick’s ” nomme de guerre; 
It suits the article admirably—improves It. He 
says "Ermongarde” is guliiy of ridicule. 
Medectn, Queris-toi toi-nuroe t 
“ Sword Stick” imagines the ladles to be a com¬ 
position of flowers and feathers, laces ard silks, 
generally, and fashion pl ates la particular, i’ll 
leave the gentleman to wrestle alone In his might 
with the products of fancy, while I at tempt to 
deal with realities—the something beneath the 
dry goods that Is made of better material 5 some¬ 
thing iliac can aud does train children to lives of 
usefulness and honor; and that, provides for them 
the necessities of fife while the father, who needs 
to males no excuse for his finds, Is squandering 
his children’s bread and his wife’s earnings at the 
dram-shop or gambling table. 
On tho other hand, the "bread winner” de¬ 
serves much more respect than “Jacquellna” 
gives him. The -•staff ot life" must be earned 
orobtalued In some way, and It "Jacquellna” 
could know how hard were the struggles, and how 
noble the impulses in the heart ot him who wins 
it honestly, she w-ould not only surrender the 
“ cosiest corner ” tn her home to him, but the 
warmest place in her heart, and deem the offer¬ 
ing Inadequate, and be thankful that tho sacred¬ 
ness of a comfortable home shielded her trom the 
temptations, the anxieties a.ul ihe uncertainties 
ot business. " E ich (or the other and both for 
the Master, ’ Jacquellna. 
‘-SwordStick” says: " it Is a glaring Tact that, 
after marriage, many wives are more intent upon 
avoiding a family than upon preparing for the 
Pb yslcal advancement u( another g uenulon.” 
But Is It not a glaring (act that, after marriage, 
many men are more intern upon ha ving .families 
than upon providing for thnm. 
But this habit needs no excuse ! 
“The clothing of our children depends upou 
the fashion." Only too true. Louk at school¬ 
girls I Whoever thought or sending boys two 
miles to school In winter, with such shoes as the 
girls wear. Preposterous! Lf farmers did not get 
boots for their boys the State would. 
But tho girts I ’L’aey can’t wear boots—they 
are too heavy ’ It seems to ba beyond human 
comprehension that girls need something to wear 
tvs well as boys do. 
Parents have money to pay Professors and M. 
DPs to taU about “Sex lri education;" time to 
read articles upon " Insanity among larmers’ 
daughters,” etc.; but they have not the courage 
to get proper clothes tor their girls, nor the time 
to think that tho only wonder is that girls have 
minds at all, when sc regardless of health. 
