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THE RUBAI. NEW-YORKER. 
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fallen too low in his good opinion ever to rise, 
despite her future achievements, unless her 
manners were very materially improved. 
This have 1 actually seen, and now let me 
give you a pen-picture of another family—a 
family of almost ideal manners. Mrs. White 
has five children, a mature son and daughter, 
one son 10 and two girls of 12 and 14. None 
of her children were allowed to eat at the 
family table until they were 10 years old. Be¬ 
fore that they ate at their own table in the 
nursery, presided over by the nurse and often 
the mother or elder sister would join them. 
Here they were taught simple, easy manners, 
and sometimes papa himself would look in a 
moment at them during their early dinner 
hour. They were always told that when they 
were 10 years old they could eat at papa’s 
table down in the dining-room, and I believe 
in cases of good behavior they were allowed 
to eat with papa at dinner on Sundays from 
their eighth year. Thoy wore taught to take 
their places quietly; bow their heads while 
the blessing was being asked; the use of their 
napkins and forks; to use the spoon only when 
necessary: the knife never save for carving, 
or spreading butter; to sit quietly; to under¬ 
stand that mamma’s “No” was final, and 
never to pout at or dispute her decision on any 
coveted dish; never to drop anything, but in 
case of an accident to say: “Excuse me,” 
and to pick up the silver or food which had 
fallen, never to say, as one little child did at 
a ceremonious dinner: “ I dropped my cake 
mamma, ana it is dirty.” 
If the household pets are allowed in the din¬ 
ing-room, never permit the children to feed 
or caress them during a meal, but have a rug 
or a special corner where they may lie. They 
will soon lenru this aud both dogs and mas¬ 
ters will thus learn a useful lesson in manners 
and obedience. 
One of the maxims of our house is that 
good manners are not to be put on with the 
dainty “best” dress in honor of some guest, and 
then carlessly laid aside until on the next occa¬ 
sion when required the dress will be fouud to 
need a few stitches, a fresh braid or clean 
ruche—in a few hurried moments the gar¬ 
ment may be repaired. Here the comparison 
ceases, for good-breeding should become an 
essential part of a person’s individual charac¬ 
ter, never to be brought out only on great oc¬ 
casions. If all the members of the family 
would endeavor to be as truly polite, as kind, 
as thoughtful to each other at the table, as 
they would wish to appear before strangers 
even the most unruly dinner group would 
gradually come nearer to making the meal 
that ideal we all are striving for—a quiet, 
restful repast—where all down to the little 
golden-haired “girlie” bring their best 
thoughts, feelings aud aspirations. And the 
trials and vexations of the day if not half ef¬ 
faced, are not mentioned. Such were the 
dear, old gatherings at the close of the day, 
in my mother’s home in those far-off years. 
Those who made them such are scattered now, 
father and mother having gone to that “other 
home” and brother aud sisters out in the world. 
And thinking of that dear old home I often 
remember that favorite hour aud the lessons 
our mother taught us there. Perhaps a 
weary, over-burdened mother is now almost 
despairing over her several little ones because 
her rules are so often broken or forgotten, 
and there seems no improvement. 
Let me help as well as criticise. In the 
room which was once my nursery there still 
hangs as a guide an old, simple aud concise 
proverb, painted on heavy cardboard, which 
has been the rule, the inspiration of my two 
children since their childhood, first in table 
manners, and in their older days in all the 
trials of life. It is taken from the Greek, 
written several hundred years before Christ. 
“ Trying will do anything in this world.” 
Here is another idea I learned the other day. 
A novel plan which may help many a mother, 
—which should help I ought to say. The 
motive is taken from liOngfellow’s beautiful 
poem entitled “St Augustine.” It consisted 
of the first verse only . 
“ St. Augustine! Well hast thou said. 
That of our vices we can frame a ladder, 
If we will but tread beneath our feet 
Each deed of shame.” 
In my friend’s large, pleasant, cool uursery 
oil htr black-board which is a constant source 
of enjoyment to her children, there were 
drawn with crayon three ladders, one for 
each child. There are only seven rounds or 
“ steps ” to each ladder, when completed, one 
for each day in the week. At the end of the 
day if the fault or “ sin ” had been conquered, 
a “ step ” was added, but If the fault had been 
committed, the round was omitted from the 
ladder, the space being left vacant as though 
broken. 1 should have said that over each 
ladder was written the name of the special 
fault » hich the child wished to correct. The 
name was changed occasionally. This time it 
was “ Table Maimers.” 
Every lihQday, Mr, Herbert, with 
careless Ted, grave, sweet little Madge and 
little Comfort, (the baby), made their way to 
the room where the children showed papa 
their “ ladders,”sometimes with bright spark¬ 
ling eyes and occasionally with tear-stained 
faces and mamma wa3 close at hand to give her 
counsel. I remember one occasion when con¬ 
scientious, little Madge as she clung to her 
fathers hand, said with a sob: “ Papa, I tried 
and tried ’most every day.” “ Papa ” tossed 
her up in his arms, kissed her and told her to 
keep on trying, and remember that papa al¬ 
ways loved her whether she succeeded or not, 
" But Madge does try,” the little thing re¬ 
peated. “Mamma says I’m like you. I try 
to do my best—and Ted forgets sometimes,” 
in a half whisper. Papa carried the children 
down into the library, where be read them a 
chapter and told them stories of that beauti¬ 
ful “ Child.” 
I would especially caution mothers not to 
take their children visiting until they reach a 
suitable age, unless they have early cultivated 
good manners. Many a family has been an¬ 
noyed by the children of a guest, who have 
never been taught self-restraint or self-govern¬ 
ment, and who by their loud boisterous ways 
remind one vividly of a half-starved animal 
and often completely spoil an otherwise en¬ 
joyable meal. 
Do not think that I dislike hale, hearty 
children. An enormous appetite is no dis¬ 
grace, but rather a blessing to its owner, but 
it may be quietly and properly appeased. 
Until children reach that suitable age, I 
would advise all mothers to let them remain 
at home while they should themselves visit 
their friends unaccompanied. If this is not 
possible they should give up the coveted 
“ outing ” rather than indict the petty faults 
and grievances of their children on friends or 
relatives—it matters not which. 
Only our virtues, not our vices, do we 
elderly people strive to carry to a friend’s 
home, and why should not our childre- be 
early instructed in “good manners,” not the 
least valuable of which are “ table manners?” 
I bave said nothing of technical “etiquette,” 
having confined my remarks to ordinary, 
simple, good breeding for the dining-room. 
REBECCA NEWCOME. 
BOARDING AGENTS. 
S OME time ago I saw in a paper (I think it 
_ was the Rural) among other sugges¬ 
tions for bringing a revenue to farmers’ 
wives, the keeping of traveling agents for pay 
recommended. The writer's experience must 
have been very different from mine, or else 
different kind of men travel in our locality. 
Often a peddler of tinware will be allowed 
to stop over-night, or to dinner, who seems to 
expect to pay for the entertainment of him¬ 
self and horse out of his goods. Very many 
of them get their bill for half or a tnird what 
they would have to i ay at the nearest hotel; 
tnen the man puts about three prices on his 
goods, which are apt to be of the poorest 
quality, and will hardly keep their color until 
he gets out of sight, and that is his way of 
making an honest living. He is generally 
paid by the day and his employers allow him 
a certain sum for his exDenses, but he con¬ 
trives in this way to keep the lion's share of 
it. 
A friend of miue once kept a vender of 
pictures and maps over-night. After break¬ 
fast he asked what was to be paid, and the 
farmer told him that if he had anything in 
his collections that his wife would like, he 
might settle it with her. But anything she 
wished for, was so extravagantly high-priced 
that the farmer’s wife said to him that she 
might better give him his bill entirely, than 
pay the difference between that aud his goods. 
“O thank you very much; much obliged, I 
am sure,” said the greedy peddler aud at 
once departed to seek new subjects to prey 
upon 
A year or two ago a couple of agents came 
into a ceitain neighborhood, canvassing for 
Bibles. They put up with a farmer whose 
wife was doing her own work, and had quite 
a family to care for; they engaged to board 
aud lodge with her while they went through 
that part of the towu, aud told her to 
put a good price on her work. That ought to 
have put her on her guard: but it did not, 
and after getting all the subscribers they 
could, they took her husbatid’s order also for 
a large Bible, at a war price too, and they 
were to deduct two dollars from the price of 
the Bible when it was delivered, aud pay their 
bill at the same time. However, another man 
delivered the Billies they had got subscribers 
for, and the lady was out her board bill and 
bad to pay full price for her Bible, as, of 
course, rascal number three did not know 
anything about that little arrangement 
which the others hud made. If that was not 
highway robbery it 'vas>omethiii)|: worse, 
Among the traveling agents there are stock 
and poultry buyers, who will insist on paying 
for their dinners. Many such are farmers, 
and know how it is themselves; but a farmer’s 
wife who expects to get pocket-money by 
keeping agents of any kind is building on the 
sand. A hook on the screen door is her best 
protection against all such gentry. 
AUNT RACHEL, 
COLDSLAW. 
Beat the yelks of two eggs, add a table- 
spoonful of cream, a small tea-spoonful of 
made mustard, a tea-spoonful of sugar, pep¬ 
per aud salt to the maker’s taste. Put a-half 
tea-cupful of vinegar over the fire to heat, 
thicken with a small tea-spoonful of corn¬ 
starch, and when it boils remove from the fire 
and add the above ingredients. Cut the cab¬ 
bage very fine and pour the mixture over. 
COOK. 
LAMB CUTLETS. 
Trim the pieces free from fat, and flatten 
out, if necessary. Beat two eggs, add a little 
cracker dust, season with salt and pepper, dip 
in the pieces of lamb and fry slowly in beef 
drippings until thoroughly done. 
MRS. J. G. 
HOW TOMATO CATSUP IS MADE AT THE RURAL 
GROUNDS. 
One bushel of tomatoes, washed, drained, 
and cut in half. Put over the fire in a large 
kettle. Add three large cupfuls of salt, two 
even table-spoonfuls of Cayenne pepper, two 
ounces of whole allspice, two ounces of whole 
cloves, four ounces of grated nutmeg, two 
ounces of stick cinnamon. Boil slowly two 
hours. Cool and press through affine sieve, 
carefully rubbing through tne pulp. Put 
back to boil slowly for three hours. Care 
must be given it that it may not burn. Bot¬ 
tle, cork and seal, and stand in a cool place. 
The proportions here given make an excellent 
catsup, but as we usually make about 60 pint 
bottles, we vary the ingredients, adding more 
or less spice. To some, we have added onions 
and to other bottles Worcestershire sauce. 
We have just made some that is strong with 
garlic, and as the head of the house is especial¬ 
ly fond of this flavor, he pronounces it “ the 
best ever made,” and declares that of all the 
ingredients added to tomatoes in catsup-mak¬ 
ing garlic ranks first. Bottle while boiling 
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