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THE LADIES’ FLORAL CABINET AND PICTORIAL HOME COMPANION. 
COURTSHIP, MARRIAGE, SOCIETY AND 
' NOME AMUSEMENTS. 
THE HAIDEN EOB ME. 
Just fnir cnoiigli to Iio pretty, 
Ju^t goiitio enough to be sweet, 
Just saucy enough to be witty.. 
Just dainty enough to bo nent. 
Just tail enough to bo graceful, 
Just light cnougit for a fay, 
Just dress enough to be tostefiil, 
Just merry enough to bogny. 
Just tears enough to bo tender. 
Just siglis enough to bo sad, 
Tones sort enough to remember, 
Your heart through their oadoucc made glad. 
Just meek cnongli for submission, 
Just bold enough to bo bravo. 
Just pride enough for ambition. 
Just thoughtful enough to bo grave. 
A tongue that can talk without harming. 
Just mischief enough to tease. 
Manners pleasiiut enough to bo cbarmiiig, 
That puts you at once at your case. 
Disdain to put down presumption, 
Sarctism to answer a fool, 
Cool contempt enough shown to assumption, 
Troper dignity always the rule. 
Flights of fair fancy ethereal, 
Devotion to science fnli paid. 
Stuff of the sort of maieriid 
That really good housewives arc made. 
Generous enough and kind-hcaned, 
I'urc as the angels above— 
Oh: from her may 1 never bo parted. 
For such is the maiden I love. 
nthul lit to match the money ot any lady in the 
land. A young woman ctin far safer trust her 
fortunes to n husband who has been brought up 
to know wliat money is worth, and whoso life 
is honorable with habits of integrity and good 
principle. And yet the number of rich young 
men and girls is few. What a folly to refuse 
marriage bocau.so all are not rich. Many a young 
man has dated the beginning of his wealth from 
the time when ho and wife first sot up iiouse- 
keoping by them.sclves, and each learned their 
individual responsibility. lie to save against a 
time of need, and spurred to now activity because 
ho had one who leaned upon him for help. She 
by her winning ways and genial efibrts to make 
home happy, to help him in prudent housewifely 
management. And so their savings yearly laid 
by were added rapidly year after year, and when 
they actually were rich, none were less proud 
than they, nor any'more ready to do good. 
Marry for love. Young friends, there is noth- 
g which will develop a noble feeling, and a per¬ 
manent aflcction, as mutual solf-saoriflco for each 
other. Money is no bond of union, but a cause 
of jealousy, and often a deceit. No girl, however 
rich she may be, need refuse the suit of a j'oung 
man, honest, upright, and of good habits. Every 
j'ouug man may well count it an honor and pri- 
ilege to select as a companion for life one who 
was brought up to “help herself," and not with 
servants to help her—of whom Solomon has 
wisely said, “ She lookoth well to the ways of 
her household.” 
EPITAPH TO A HOMELY HOUSEWIFE. 
WKITTES BV A S.VILOR. 
Hero rests a wife, who in her life. 
Was fi-ag.al, kiiul, and proper. 
Sbe never spent an idle cent, 
Nor lost a careless copper. 
Her freckled face and want of gr.ace 
To tlionglillcss ev es were homely; 
Blit to the.kind, discerning mind 
Ail gentle things arc comely. 
Her homebred eyes were all unwise 
In lace., or silks, or sables; 
Yet none could be more skilled than she 
Xu garnishing her tables. 
She lacked the art that snares the hc.art 
By Icminine bewitching. 
Her only “airs” were honsebold cares. 
Her “sentiment” van kitchen. 
On earth, lier kind but common mind 
Was in her liome,-and homely. 
Now is her rest among the blest. 
Where all good souls arc comely. 
MABEYINO FOE MONEY. 
Don’t do it; If you aim to marry for money 
only, you will get caught nicely some time. 
The father or the father-in-law do not give up 
their hard-earned money quite as readily as the 
little couple expected, and John and Mary come 
at last to the sober thought that they must work 
as well as their parents before them. 
It is one of the most deplorable signs of this 
mercenary age that most young people arc 
anxious to marry rich. Yet look at the ques¬ 
tion in a practical light. Among the young men 
in the matrimonial market, only a very few are 
independently rich. And in nine cases out of 
ten, they fail to make good husbands. Educated 
without work, they live in an atmosphere of 
money-spending; their tastes arc expensive, they 
know little of self-denial. They know not 
W'hat money is worth by the years of hard work 
it takes to procure .'it, and it is not strange that 
they have so little ability to keep it. Their very 
wealth fo.sters pride and excesses which often 
lead them beyond the respect and influence of an 
honorable position in society. 
There is a large number of young men just 
beginning in life, who have a noble ambition, an 
honorable family record, brought up to habits of 
hard work, and a true idea of the way to attain 
a manly independence. Among such a class, a 
young lady will find a better, nobler heart to 
love, and one who will bo true in aflcction and 
efibrts for her comfort. Any young man who 
has habits of industry, thrift, economy and a 
good-hearted desire to do good to others, has in 
himself a wealth of character, disposition and 
DO NOT KEEP LATE HOUES. 
SIMPLICITY OF DEE8S. 
Female lovlinc.s8 never appears to so good ad¬ 
vantage as when set off with simplicity of dress. 
No artist ever decks his angels with towering 
featlicrs and gaudy jewelry; and our dear human 
angels, if they would make good their title to 
that name, should carefully avoid ornaments, 
which properly belong to Indian squaws and 
African princesses. These tinselries may serve 
to give elfect on the stage, or pn the ball room 
floor, but in daily life there is no substitute for 
the charm of siiriplicity. A vulgar taste is not 
to bo disguised by gold and diamonds. The ab¬ 
sence of a true taste and refinement of delicacy, 
cannot bo compensated for by the posse.ssion of 
the most princely fortune. Mind measures gold, 
but gold cannot measure mind. Through dress 
the mind may be read, as through the delicate 
li.s.suo.s of the lettered page. A modest woman 
will dress modestly; a really refined and intel¬ 
lectual woman will bear the marks of careful 
seleetion and faultless taste. 
BEWAEE OF POWDER-A HINT TO LOVERS. 
A lad}', who signs her.self “ A JIartyr to Late 
Hours,” offers the following sensible suggestion 
to young men: 
Dear gentlemen, between the ages of eighteen 
.and forty-five, listen to a few words, or gratui¬ 
tous remarks. IVhen you make a social call of 
an evening, on a young lady, go away at a rea¬ 
sonable hour. Say you come at eight o’clock, 
an hour and a half is cei-tainly as long as the 
most fascinating of you in conversation can, or 
rather ought to desire to use his ch.arms. Two 
hours, indeed, can be very pleasantly spent w'ith 
music, chess, or other games, to lend variety; 
but, kind sirs, by no means stay longer. Make 
shorter calls, and come oftener. A girl—that is 
a sensible, true-hearted girl—will enjoy it better, 
and really value your acquaintance more. Just 
conceive the agony of a girl who, well knowing 
the feeling of a father and mother on the subject, 
hears the clock strike ten, and yet must sit on 
the edge of her chair in mortal terror, lest papa 
should put his oft repeated threat into execu¬ 
tion—that of coming down and inviting the gen¬ 
tleman to breakfast. Ah, w'e girls understand 
it all by experience, and know w'hatit is to dread 
the prognostic of displeasure. In such cases, a 
sigh of relief goner.ally accompanies the closing 
of the door behind the gallant, and one don’t get 
over the feeling of trouble till safe in the arms 
of Morpheus. Even then, sometimes the dreams 
are troubled with some phantom of an angry 
father and distressed (for all parties) mother; 
•and all because a young man will make a longer 
call than he ought to. 
Now, young gentlemen friends. I’ll tell you 
what we girls will do. For an hour and a half 
we will be most irresistibly charming and fasci- 
n,ating; then, beware, monosyllable responses 
will bo all you need expect. And if, when the 
limits shall have been passed, a startling query 
shall be heard coming down stairs: “Isn’t it 
time to close up ? ” you must consider it a right¬ 
eous punishment, and, taking your hat, meekly 
depart, a sadder and, it is to bo hoped, a wiser 
man. Do not get angry; but the next time you 
come, be careful to keep within bounds. We 
want to rise early those pleasant mornings, and 
improve the “shining hours;” but when forced 
to be up at such unsc.asonable hours at night, 
e.xhausted nature will speak, and, as a natural 
consequence, with the utmost speed in dressing, 
we can barely get down to breakfast in time to 
escape a reprimand from papa, who don’t believe 
in beaux—as though he never was young—and a 
mild, reproving glanee from mamma, who under¬ 
stands a little better poor daughter’s feelings, 
but still must disapprove outwardly, to keep up 
appearances. And now, young men, think about 
these things, and don’t—for pity’s sake, don’t 
throw down your paper with a pshaw ! but re¬ 
member the safe side of ten. 
A good story is told of a young lady and a 
gentleman at a fashionable party in Nashville. 
The young man was hand.some and happy; the 
young lady arrayed in all the exquisite taste of 
lavender, rose, etc., with gold powdered hair 
flowing over her swan-like neck. Finding the 
heat of the room too much for them, they sought 
Ihc cool shade of an arbor where they might 
listen to the fountain’s fall. The music rose and 
fell, time flew on silver pinions, and after an ab¬ 
sence of .about three hours our young friends 
entered (he brilli.antly illuminated parlors. The 
lady pas.scd on in the dance, but the young man 
was slightly taken aback by his next neighbor 
informing him th.at round his neck was the un- 
mistaken print of two arms, all in chalk and 
diamond dust, on one shoulder a large pile of 
yellow powder, and on his upper lip and cheek 
diamond dust, bloom of youth .and yellow pow¬ 
der, mixed up generally. The young lady’s 
hair was observed to be sevcr.al slnades paler. 
Moral—carry a dusting broom in your pocket, 
or kiss, but take care it don’t tell. 
“ Fanny, don’t you think Mr. Bond is a hand¬ 
some man ?” “ Oh, no, I can’t endure him. He 
is homely enough.” “ 'Well, he’s fortunate, at 
all events; an old aunt has just died, and loft 
him ^50,000.” “Indeed, is it true? Well, 
now I come to recollect, there is a certain noble 
air about him, and he has a fine eye—that can’t 
be denied.” 
A young kady at an Ohio camp-meeting a,sked 
the jiraycrs of the a.ssembly, becau.se she could 
not sot her eyes upon a certain young man in the 
neighborhood without feeling as though she must 
hug him to death. 
“ What substitute can There be for the endear¬ 
ments of one’s sister ? ” exclaimed Mary. “ The 
endearments of .some other fellow’s sister,” re¬ 
plied John. 
A bashful young man was escorting a bashful 
young lady, when shes.aid, entreatingly, “ .fabez, 
don’t tell anybody you bcaued me home.” 
“Don’t be .afr.aid,” replied he, “I’m as much 
ashamed of it as you are.” That settled it. 
“ What flower of beauty shall I marry ? ” 
asked a young spendthrift of his miserly gov¬ 
ernor. To which the governor replied, with a 
grim smile, “ JIari-gold.” 
Of the many curiosities developed in taking 
the census, the following is worth the space it 
occupies: An Ohio marshal, on one of his re¬ 
turns, makes the following endorsement; 
John Thomas,-county, Ohio, age ninety- 
six. I found this man to-day in his field cutting 
wheat. He told me he has now his third wife, 
and ho thought it would take another besides 
this to carry him through. 
(Signed.) -, M.arshal. 
A young lady .at Indianola, not very long 
since, killed a skunk with a butcher knife. Her 
lover came to see her that night, and told her he 
could not marry he5<,unless she quit using such 
FEMALE SOCIETY. 
You know my opinion of female society. 
Without it we should degenerate into brutes. 
This observation applies with ten-fold force to 
young men, and those who are in the prime of 
manhood. For, after a certain time of life, (he 
literary man may m.akc a shift (a poor one, I do 
grant) to do without the society of ladies. To 
a young man, nothing is so important as the 
spirit of devotion (next to his Creator) to .some, 
amiable wom.an, whose image may occupy his 
heart; guard it from pollution, which besets it 
from all sides. A man ought to choose his wife 
as Mrs. Primrose did her wedding-gown, for the 
qualities that “wear well.” One thing at least 
is true, that, if matrimony has its cares, celibacy 
has no pleasure. A Newton or a mere scholar 
may find employment in study; a man of literary 
taste can receive in books a powerful auxiliary; 
but a man must have a bosom friend, and chil¬ 
dren around him, to cherish and support the 
dreariness of old age .—John Hanclolph. 
LffVE GIFTS. 
Love gifts should be of little intrinsic value; 
they should owe their preciousness to the hand 
that gives. The token of love should not, by its 
beauty or costliness, distract the attention for 
one moment from the mc.aning of the gift—heart 
speaking to heart, in language eloquent though 
dumb. AVhat .are the objects that have been 
gazed upon and kissed and wept over as price¬ 
less treasures? A “pretty ring with a posy,” a 
glove, a true-love knot in hair or ribbon, or, as 
likely as not, a few faded flowers; but is there 
one who has loved who cannot recall to mind the 
throb of ecst.acy, the glow of paradisical bliss, 
with which the first love-gift was received—the 
silent messenger bringing the full assur.ance of 
love’s return ? The youth who has just obtained 
a lock of hair or simple ro.sebud, maybe from his 
mistress’s hand, given after much pleading, 
would he part with it for a rose of rubies and 
gold? Would yonder girl, as she sits in her 
chamber alone, turning on her finger the slight 
ring that binds her to him who has won her 
maiden troth, change it for a circlet of the cost¬ 
liest diamonds ? Not- for world’s 1 
A young hoosier once said to ,a young hoosier- 
s, “Sal, is there anybody courtin’yu now?”- 
“ AYell, Sam, there is one fellow sorter courtin’, 
and sorter not; but I reckon it is more sorter 
not than sorter.” 
Wliat is tlic reason—can you guess— 
tVliy men are poor, and woman tliinner? 
So much do they for dinner dress, 
Tliat notiling's left to dress for dinner. 
Johnny was telling his ma how he was going 
to dress and show off when he was a man. His 
ma asked ; “ Johnny, what do you expect to do 
for a living W'hen you get to be a man ? ” “ AVell, 
I’ll get married, and lodge with my wife’s 
pa.” 
JIarri.-igc is like a hrilliant taper's light, 
I'laccd at a window in a summer night, 
Atlracting all tlie insects of tlie air 
To come and singe tlieir pretty winglets there; 
Tiiosc who are out hntt lieads agtdnst the pane, 
And lliosn wlio i.re in butt to get out again. 
A married lady of Chicago thus sums up three 
years’ experience of married life; “ The first year 
my husband called me ‘ dear,’ the second year 
‘ JIrs. A.,’ and the third year ‘old sorrel top.’ 
The last I couldn’t stand, and sued for a di¬ 
vorce.” She got it. 
A Maine lover gave up his bride, when her 
father presented a bill for the young lady’s board 
during the four years they had been “ engaged.” 
The three fond periods of life are, the first 
consciousness of love returned, the summer last 
before marriage—when all the coast is smooth— 
and, next, the early months of the first baby, 
W'hen a man feels a little queer, and the woman 
is perfectly self-possessed again. 
Younger Brother—“What’s the matter Mary ? 
Are you unhappy because neither of those fel¬ 
lows who were flirting with you .at croquet yes¬ 
terday proposed to you?” Mary—“Both did, 
Tom! And—I said yes, to the wrong one 1 ” 
“What do you ask for that article?” inquired 
an old gentleman of a pretty shop^rl. “ Two 
dollars.” “Ain’t you a little dear?” Why,” 
she replied, blushing, “ all the young men tell 
