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Friendship 
By James W. Beckman 
OOD friendship is the most divine thing we know. 
How to make good faithful friends who will 
stand by them through thick and thin is a great ques- 
tion to many. Others just seem to fall into such 
friendships. Of course, there are differences in per- 
sonalities which make for or against extensive friend- 
ships; but everyone can have plenty of good friends 
who will be true. 
Some people think there is a secret for making 
friends. They will tell you that you hold your friends 
with a charm and that you must not divulge this 
charm for thereby it will become ineffectual and you 
will not be able to discover another charm for the 
friends lost. 
Such talk is silly and absurd. A friendship made 
on that basis is not a friendship; it is at the best but 
little better than the charm of one animal over an- 
other. These friendships blaze for awhile; but they 
usually terminate in a sudden and inexplicable man- 
ner—the charm has lost its power. Intelligent people 
resent efforts to play upon them. 
You can also make friends by subjugating more 
or less your personality to the will or whim of others 
and by living beyond your means. Such friendships 
are short-lived, They are more sorry than happy at 
their best. They are not friendships, but parodies on 
friendship. 
There is only one way to make friends, 
friendships made in that way are the noble, per- 
manent ones which everyone loves, but which few 
seem to possess. The secret of it is not secrecy. It 
is openness, fairness, kindness, fidelity. 
mepresent yourself to be what you are, stand for 
your ideals gently but firmly. Never sacrifice your 
conscience or better judgment for the sake of a 
friendship, for what you will gain is not a friendship. 
If you will courageously stand your ground you 
will attract people who admire these qualities. Among 
then you will make friends who will stand by you in 
prosperity and adversity. These are the freindships 
that are genuine, that last undimmed through pleasure 
or pain. 
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CHICAGO. Mr. and Mrs, James B. Waller were among 
the dinner guests asked to meet Mrs. Potter Palmer 
at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Arthur J. Eddy last week. 
Mrs. Palmer, as well as many other Chicagoans, will soon 
be leaving for her winter home. Mrs. Palmer has an 
immense estate at Sarasota, Florida, where she has be- 
come one of the world’s most renowned market gardeners. 
Last winter she sent carloads of grapefruit, lemons, 
oranges and asparagus from her 200,000 acres to northern 
riarkets, mostly to New York. For supervising her 
estate she uses autos where possible, but goes over a 
great deal of it in fast power boats.. Ogden Codman of 
New York who spent last summer in Ipswich was the 
architect of the beautiful grounds. 
We shall be made truly wise if we be made content,— 
content, too, not only with what we can understand, but 
content with what we do not understand, the habit of 
mind which theologians call, and rightly, faith in God— 
Kingsley. 
Dec. 31,1915. 
NEW YORKERS are not noted for doing things half 
way. Ice skating as a fad has struck New York good | 
and hard, and it promises to grow in favor. The only ~ 
trouble is there are not enough small rinks to accom- 
modate the rush, as so many desire to entertain small 
parties with skating instead of dancing, and the new fad 
involves a little more of house renovation than its prede- 
cessors. Of course everybody in the social register had 
a ballroom, but not many have a private skating rink. It 
will be remembered how, when the dancing fad was at its 
eight, ballrooms sprang up like mushrooms all over the 
town, The cobwebs are darkening the doors of many of 
these small dance places, which shows how popular favor - 
runs. Ice rinks are made at considerable trouble and 
expense, and naturally they will not become so common. 
Skating lessons are now as much in vogue as dancing 
lessons were a season or so ago, but it requires a great deal 
more patience and brawn to skate than to dance. A large 
percentage of society is going about now with bruised. ny 
knees and weak ankles, for spills on the ice are the most — 
natural sequence to enthusiasm, and those “shooting — 
pains” in the ankles are the despair of the amateurs. - But 
“cheer up” and remember Dr. Walton’s aphorisms: “Do 
it now.” “Play the game—you’ll never be quite safe till | 
you’re dead.” : 
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Mrs. Fletcher -Ryer and her daughter, Miss Doris 
Ryer, who are spending the winter in New York, have 
been making a short visit in San Franciseo. While there — 
Miss Ryer was one of the ushers at the charity dansant for 
the Children’s Hospital. The Ryers arrived in Washing- - 
ton in time to spend Christmas with Mr. and Mrs. Haxek 
Wichfeld (Mrs. Mabel Swift Moore). & 
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Miss Elizabeth Hammond, sister of John Hays “Ham-- 
raond, is the guest of Miss Lillian Baldwin at Lakewood, 
No A ae Hammond and members of his family are 
planning upon going to Lakewood in the near future for 
a sojourn at the country club. The amateur individual 
trap shooting tournament of the Laurel House Gun club 
held this week was one of the greatest sporting events 
ever held in Lakewood. 
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Mrs. J. Pierpont Morgan, Mrs. James Sone ‘and: 4 
Mrs. Raynal C. Bolling (daughter of Mrs. John C. Phil 
lips of Moraine Farm), are among the patronesses for — 
the dance, Jan, 5, at the New Colony club in New York, — 
through the courtesy of Mrs. J. Dyneley Prince, by the — 
Loomis Sanatorium Guild, the proceeds of which will be Bas 
applied to the support of free beds for tubercular patients. ‘ 
From a social standpoint the ball will be one of the HOSE 
important of the new year. IOs a ee 
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Society i is taking a great interest in the “Ball x the a 
Gods,” a sumptuous fete scheduled for Feb. 11 as a bene- “i. 
f: for art students. No one will be allowed to enter the 
ballroom unless attired as some mythological character in 
Greek, Hindu, Japanese, Yucatan, Egyptian or any my- oe 
thology he pleases to select from. Among the patron- 
ecses are Mmes, Howard Cushing, Junius Spencer Mor-- © 4 
gan, Henry Payne Whitney and Gifford A. Cochrané= ae) 
°o & ies.” 
Mr. and Mrs. W. H. Davidee and their daughter, 
Mrs. David Randall Maclvor of New York and Eastern 
Point, Gloucester, where they have one of the attractive 
komes on the water’s edge, are Spenee a few weeks Ei}, 
Augusta, Ga. 
It is not true that love makes all iinea'e easy;itmakes 
us choose what is difficult—George Eliot. ae 
